Change of perspective

When criticism hits us hard, it's often because we give other people power over our feelings. For example, we say: "My girlfriend makes me so angry!" But no one can force us to feel a certain way. Only we decide what we feel.

Distraction

When we are emotionally charged, there is little point in looking for a sensible solution to a problem or discussing something. Better: take a deep breath, distract yourself with other things.

Counterarguments

If we receive negative feedback, we can and should question it: What evidence is there that the claims are true? Are there any conclusive counterarguments? Then counter confidently - in an objective manner, of course.

Offense

If we take another look at statements that initially offend us, it gives us the chance to learn from them: criticism often contains valuable information that helps us to rethink behaviors and habits that bother us.

Acceptance

If, like the Buddhists, we try to perceive everything without judging it immediately, and if we also accept unpleasant things without making them bigger or smaller, we are a big step further and draw strength and power from ourselves.