1 "Understanding needs understanding"

We don't always have to approve of what our partner says, does or feels. But to be really close to them, it helps to put yourself in their shoes.

2 "The we comes first"

Togetherness is not coexistence. Only if we really live together as a couple, i.e. our relationship comes first, and we make an effort together every day, will the you and I become a we.

3 "No solution is also a solution"

We don't have to discuss everything. If we accept that some things are not worth arguing about in the first place, it is incredibly liberating.

4 "Always is rarely helpful"

Generalizations in a relationship can quickly lead to conflict. "You always forget ...", "You never help me with ..." - Generalizations like these hurt us and prevent us from working together harmoniously. Stay objective!

5 "Compromises are made together"

Holding back and hiding your needs in order to do your partner a favor - that's not a compromise. Only when couples openly communicate their wishes to each other is it possible to find an alternative that satisfies both of them.

6 "Love is all ears"

Listening attentively is a very important building block in any relationship. It shows that we really care about our partner and want to be involved in their emotional world.

7 "Everything is big in love"

Even if sometimes it's just the little things that make us upset with our partner: There is always more to it than that. The desire to be taken seriously, understood and truly loved. Love is the greatest thing.

8 "Others are no yardstick"

"So Tobi and Eva do it this way and that way ..." - Stop! Other people have no place in a clarifying conversation with your partner. It's all about us and our loved one, our desires and what might be annoying us at the moment. Others don't help.

9 "Partnership never stands still"

We don't just "have" a relationship, we "lead" it - in other words, we have to steer it, take it forward and develop it further. That means work, but it's worth the effort. Because if we keep setting out on a new path together, we can preserve the magic of the beginning.

10 "Today is more important than yesterday"

It's good to look back together as a couple - but yesterday shouldn't overshadow today. Only indulging in memories clouds our view of what enriches us now.

11 "To know also means to recognize"

It's nice when we feel that we can correctly assess our partner. But it is even more important to appreciate them. To respect and accept them for who they are.

12 "Freedom connects"

Sticking together doesn't mean holding on to everything. In love, we need an authentic counterpart, not a copy of ourselves.