Communication is the be-all and end-all of a happy relationship
We would like it to be different. But every couple knows phases in which they realize that the butterflies that fluttered at the beginning of the relationship have become a little wingless. It usually comes to a crisis between the 5th and 8th year of the relationship. According to recent surveys, 72 percent of Germans still believe in eternal love. Experts promise that the recipe for a happy ending is not that complicated. It is: communicate and stay curious. Talking to your partner is fundamentally important, especially in a long-term relationship. These 33 questions, which are exciting, courageous and surprising, can work wonders. They give love room to develop and help you to really get to know each other - time and time again. Give it a try.
And this is how it works:
Off to the sofa, Netflix on, have some peace and quiet? Break this routine and consciously take time for each other to talk. Of course, you don't have to go through all 33 questions at once. The important thing is to find a pace that suits you both. You can also arrange regular question-and-answer dates. Rule: don't interrupt the other person and never take critical answers personally. Honesty is an impulse that helps you move forward.
- Have I ever hurt you without realizing it?
- What do you think is our greatest common strength?
- And what is our greatest common weakness?
- Do you think we spend enough time together?
- What can we learn from each other?
- Is there a couple you envy for their relationship?
- Are there perhaps things or topics where you can't really trust me completely?
- Do you actually believe in true love?
- In your opinion, can there be eternal fidelity?
- Why do you think the divorce rate is so much higher today than it used to be?
- Are there qualities and sides to you that you don't like at all?
- Do you dare to honestly confide in me all your sexual dreams?
- What do you enjoy most about sex? Is there anything you don't like?
- Do I touch you too much? Or maybe too little?
- Is there a topic you don't like talking about with me?
- What qualities do you love most about me?
- Are there any qualities that bother you about me?
- Do you have goals that you want to achieve in your life?
- How did you perceive your parents' relationship? Did they do anything particularly wrong or right?
- Do you think you get enough support from me in everything?
- Have you ever been embarrassed by me?
- In your opinion, have I changed over the course of our relationship?
- Why do you think we of all people fell in love with each other?
- Is there anything you couldn't forgive?
- If a fairy godmother could grant us one wish together, what would it be?
- Are there moments when you feel misunderstood by me?
- Do you think there is something that could bring us even closer together?
- What has been the best moment for you in our relationship over the years?
- How important is sex in a relationship?
- Can relationships work even if there is no sex (anymore)?
- Is there anything in our time together that you really regret?
- Do you think it's okay to argue sometimes in a relationship?
- What do you think attracted me to you back then?
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