There is always a "day of honor" for all kinds of things. And many of these days celebrate the important things in life. Everyone is familiar with anniversaries and wedding anniversaries. Important activities also have annual public holidays. Including the most important one, of course: 28.07.17 is International Sex Day.

And you should celebrate it properly. Not alone, of course, but with your loved one. It also makes sense to celebrate such a wonderful leisure activity as sex. In my opinion, you should concentrate on the essentials. You always read in all kinds of media what you should pay attention to during sex. You should be as passionate as possible, be able to seduce your partner to the best of your ability, always have multiple orgasms and so on. You read about which position you should hold for how long, at what angle and which points on your body react intensively to touch.

In short, we are increasingly being taught to understand sexuality as mathematics. I am not at all denying that a certain amount of education about anatomy and sexual techniques can be helpful. A select repertoire of sex toys and lingerie can also be very helpful. However, I think it's wrong to think of sex as just a matter of the head - and to pursue a kind of performance mindset. Because that's not what sex is about at all. Why do you have to worry about seeing your body as a tool with which you can work your partner in the best possible way?

Switch off your head and just feel

If you drift too much in this direction, you take away everything that makes sex fun. Because the more you use your head to use the latest practices you just read about yesterday, the less you realize what's actually going on. You feel less, you notice your partner less - the warm skin, the rapid breathing just before climax or how hands bury themselves in our bodies. We are simply distracted at such moments and therefore less aware of our partner.

So if you're in the middle of the upcoming international sex holiday, remember this article - and give yourself completely to the situation. Feel your partner with all your senses. Pay attention to how they react to you, what they like and what they don't like. But also pay attention to what you like and what you don't like. This will make sex really intimate and you'll have a new holiday like no other. Believe me: it will be the best holiday of the year!