For women, anal sex is often an absolute taboo subject and some men are irritated when they enjoy passive anal sex. However, they are very open to active anal sex and women will go through a lot for his sake. So much for the clichés. Read on to find out how to practice anal sex properly.
Anal intercourse: sex from behind is really this exciting
Anal sex can be very arousing for both partners, as many nerve endings converge in the anus. The anus is very tight and the stimulation is intense. For men, this is an excellent way to massage the prostate - a prostate massage can also lead to orgasm. Anal intercourse can therefore be both passively and actively stimulating for both sexes. In our ORION blog, we regularly write articles about anal sex in general, the best techniques or positions and helpful tips. This time, however, it's not about when, how and where, but we wanted to know from our readers whether the above-mentioned clichés are justified.
After all, who actually says that women want to sink into the floor in shame when it comes to anal sex and don't perhaps also feel lust and passion? And who said that all men actively enjoy anal sex but are homophobic when it comes to passive sex? There are certainly many women who really enjoy having sex in the back room and just as many men who are not at all enthusiastic about anal sex. That's why we simply asked what attitudes men and women have towards anal sex, active or passive.
The majority like anal sex
Surprising or not, the majority of both men and women are into anal sex (as of 28.09.2016) - both actively and passively, as it also gives them an orgasm. Among women, 40% and among men 51% of participants like to practice anal intercourse both actively and passively. However, the results differ greatly in the second place. While women are the second most likely to prefer passive anal intercourse (24%), 33% of men only enjoy this sexual practice actively. For women, the answer "No, I don't like anal sex" follows in third place. For men, this answer is in fourth place with just 6%. This is followed by passive anal sex with 7% of men. In fact, there is even a small proportion of women in last place with 11% who only prefer active anal sex. Incidentally, just as many women don't know exactly whether they like anal sex. Among men, 5% have no opinion on the subject.
So what conclusions can we draw from this? For many, anal intercourse is a very relevant topic and an enrichment for their sex life. Others are obviously not so keen on this form of sex, although they naturally find the butt itself sexy. However, it is rather difficult to generalize the statements to sex. Perhaps this clichéd, gender-specific attitude to opinions about anal sex is simply outdated. In any case, no one needs to be ashamed when it comes to it. And for all curious people, experts, newcomers or advanced users, we have the right thing in our range. Take a look at the ORION online store and be inspired!
"Everyone says anal sex is great. Shall we give it a try?"
If your partner approaches you like this, you're sure to have a moment of shock! And who is EVERYONE anyway? Don't let yourself be pressured into doing something you don't want to do. Don't let yourself be put under pressure in terms of time either. But you can let the thought mature as to whether you should give it a try. Because you might like it. You will probably have a lot of thoughts running through your head: Doesn't it hurt? Isn't it dirty? How do I prepare myself properly for anal sex? What's the point anyway? How do I even feel about it - isn't it just for porn actors and homosexuals?
Tight sphincter: doesn't anal sex hurt?
Anal sex can indeed hurt if it is approached incorrectly and the man tries to penetrate with his penis just like that. At the latest then he will also realize that the tight sphincter is not a stretchy vagina. Pain should be avoided at all costs, otherwise the first time will be the last!
So before your partner gets started, you should get a feel for it on your own and do it yourself with an anal toy. Otherwise you're bound to be disappointed and the whole thing may be over before it's really begun. Anal toys come in different sizes. Start with the smallest size, for example in the bath. This will allow you to familiarize yourself with the sensation and stretch your bowels at the same time. You would also do this in preparation before the actual act with your partner. Always use a water-based lubricant and latex condoms. The anus itself cannot get wet, so use a lubricant to avoid pain - many inexperienced people are simply afraid of this. Important: Do not use any aids or sex toys that can disappear in the anus. This is impossible with an anal toy.
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Does the anus leak from anal sex?
This is actually a widespread myth! If you have anal sex more often, you will find that the act becomes easier and easier over time. However, this is because people are now used to having sex from behind and the passive partner relaxes more. This makes it easier for the active partner to penetrate. The sphincter is not affected by sex at all and fulfills its task in the usual way.
Isn't anal sex dirty?
The bowel should already be emptied - couples who practise anal intercourse frequently or regularly use so-called anal showers. They work like pumps filled with water, thanks to which the rectum is flushed out. Nevertheless, feces can still be present. Always use a condom during anal intercourse to protect against diseases and infections, but also for hygienic reasons. Important: Your partner should not penetrate your vagina after anal intercourse, as intestinal bacteria can cause fungi and infections.
Anal intercourse: What's the point anyway?
The only thing you can say is: trial and error makes perfect! If you pamper yourself with an anal toy, you will see how much pleasure anal sex can give you. You may not be able to have an anal orgasm. However, if you stimulate the clitoris at the same time, you can experience moments of extreme pleasure. During anal intercourse with your partner, he would of course take on this beautiful task - the positions that are practiced are made for this. The same applies the other way round, of course: If you pamper your partner with an anal toy, you can simultaneously pamper his penis with a handjob. Advantages of anal toys: They can be used to stretch the anus, which makes penetration easier.
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Is anal sex only for porn actors and homosexuals?
First of all: Don't feel any false shame during anal sex - anything that pleases both of you is allowed. They are not a submissive person, nor are they sex practices that are practiced exclusively by erotic performers or homosexuals. There are gay men who don't like anal sex at all and heterosexual men who are totally into it - even with themselves. This is purely a matter of personal preference and not sexual orientation. So if your man likes it, you don't need to worry that he is actually homosexual or has homoerotic fantasies (although anything goes in fantasy!). Although the bottom is not actually made for sex, many people simply find anal sex totally stimulating and an enrichment for their sex life.
Anal sex - the most important tips for getting it on with your partner
- Condoms are mandatory - for hygienic reasons and to avoid infection with HIV.
- Never switch between vaginal and anal penetration, as this can lead to serious infections. Wash yourself in between or change the condom if you want to switch to a different position.
- Sufficient hygiene beforehand. An anal douche can be useful, for example from Greenpinecone.
- Prepare condoms, lubricant, anal toys etc. so that you have everything you need for foreplay and the subsequent act.
- However, please only use sex toys for anal sex that are also intended for the anal area. Anal toys are usually a little thicker so that they are easy to remove and cannot disappear into the anus.
- Before having anal sex, talk to your partner about any concerns and boundaries you don't want to cross. Even if you don't like something about anal sex yourself, you should discuss this openly.
- Relax - you can only relax if you are relaxed.
- Take it easy, if it doesn't work today, then maybe next time - don't put any pressure on yourself.
- Your partner should stimulate your perineum and anus well and pre-stretch your anus, for example with a finger or an anal toy. The larger his member is, the more time he should take for foreplay. Pampering him with your tongue can be highly erotic and stimulating.
- When you're ready and feel like giving it a try, let him try it carefully with plenty of lube and condoms.
- Popular positions for anal sex are the sphinx (she lies on her stomach and bends one leg), the rider position (she sits on him) or the angel position (he lies behind her)
- Practice makes perfect - if you enjoy anal sex in general, it will get better and better over time!
ORION blogger Shirin