Cunnilingus and blow job, two great pleasures: Almost everyone likes it when their partner slowly moves their mouth from the breast to the pelvis. The anticipation alone heightens the excitement. The tongue is about to reach our most intimate body parts, gliding up and down or dipping in. Men play with the clitoris, the labia majora and labia minora, driving us crazy with ever faster circling and stroking movements. And what about us? Grasp the penis with our hands and slide our mouths up and down it like an ice cream, circling the glans with our tongues. In between, a quick glance into the eyes and every man imagines he is in seventh heaven. Two completely different fields of activity, the same delights. But isn't there another special kind of stimulation? A kind of unisex oral sex? Yes! It's called anilingus, also known as rimming or rim job, and is enjoying increasing popularity - with a little courage factor.

Anilingus: the exciting pleasure of the unspeakable

Rather daunting for beginners, I would describe this type of oral sex as a game for advanced players. Rimming requires a lot of experience on the one hand and really great trust in your partner on both sides on the other. After all, during a rimming session, we use our tongues to play around one of the most erogenous zones of the body, but also the most unspeakable and shameful: the anus. Yuck, one person might think. Mh, interesting, the other. And why should you even do that? Lick the anus?! But if you throw your inhibitions overboard and let yourself be pampered or spoiled with your tongue, you can experience the ultimate in pleasure. Because with its many nerve endings, the anus is particularly sensitive to touch. Important to know: Rimming is not anal intercourse - but it can naturally result from it.

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Rimming: Why do men like it?

Whether it's a pat on the bottom or anal sex: for many men, the buttocks are very important during sex. The reason for this is that a man's bottom is a very erogenous zone. There are lots of sensitive nerve tracts in the perineum, prostate and anus. These are very sensitive to touch and stimulation, which can be very arousing for men.

Hygiene is particularly important

Most people expect unpleasant odors from the anus, after all, it is our excretory organ. However, anyone who has ever stuck their nose deep between their partner's buttocks has probably had a different experience. This is because the glands in the anal area, which release a breakdown product of the male sex hormone testosterone, almost give off a slight odor. It's like the armpit. Freshly washed, the scent can have a very arousing effect on us; unwashed, we can only hope that our arms stay down. If we can smell our partner well, we will also like to sniff our anus. Just try it out inconspicuously if you're already in the area with your nose anyway. Hygiene is, of course, particularly important here: before licking extensively, you should take a shower or bath and deal with any urge to defecate. Hygiene is extremely important because there are bacteria in our excrement that can make us ill. Therefore, don't let yourself be persuaded to engage in spontaneous licking games, as this can end badly.The anus itself is a very clean place if it is well cared for on the outside. If you feel more comfortable with this, you can also use an anal douche before anilingus. It is uncomplicated to use and can be done quickly and easily at home. Anal douches are available in erotic online stores from five euros.

However, you should not only pay attention to hygiene, but also to the health aspects of anilingus. This is because sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV can also be transmitted through pole licking. In addition to condoms, there are also lick cloths for cunnilingus in the safer sex section. These are also excellent for careful lovers to use during anilingus.

Sexual preferences: Addressing anilingus correctly

Rimming is a sensitive sexual practice that often divides opinion. While some find it disgusting, others are totally into it. It is therefore not advisable to just get started. Talk to your partner about your sexual preferences beforehand. If you are unsure, you can feel your way slowly and bring the conversation to the sexy backside. Would you like to rim, but don't know how your partner feels about it? Start the conversation with compliments to take away your partner's shyness. Those who feel desired are more likely to overcome their mental limits. However, if one of you doesn't want to (for the time being), this should definitely be accepted.

Find the right position and off you go

It's not quite so easy to reach this hidden spot with your tongue. What's the best way to go about it? Four positions are particularly suitable. And they are equally suitable for both sexes, as we are talking about unisex here. Kneeling on all fours, the receiver presents his or her bottom. The giver can pull their buttocks apart and enjoy the unobstructed view. In a hollow back position, the buttocks are pushed a little higher. Lying on your back is a little more uncomfortable, as the person lying down has to pull their legs towards their head. And if you prefer to lie on your stomach, you can place a pillow under your pelvis to lift your bottom up. One position is still missing and that is the 69th unisex with equal rights, because here both get their money's worth at the same time. Now it can begin. Circle and caress the rosette with your tongue. You can circle the center in the shape of individual petals. If you dare, try pushing your tongue in a little. This is not so easy, as the anus is a muscle that is normally tightly contracted. Of course, anilingus can also be refined with other techniques. For example, she can stimulate the penis, testicles and perineum with her hand while he stimulates the clitoris and vagina. Playing with the tongue can also be a wonderful preparation for further anal pleasures. Like the tongue, fingers, sex toys or a penis can be dipped in afterwards. Just remember to use plenty of lubricant!

Conclusion: Do's and don'ts of anilingus

Do's:

• The new sex practice can be very arousing for both parties - so couples who like to experiment can have fun rimming.
• Make sure the atmosphere is relaxed so that you both get in the mood and assume or offer the appropriate position.
• Be careful when you pull your buttocks apart. Does your partner go with you? Caress the buttocks in general and then feel your way forward.

Don'ts:

• No spontaneous actions, because nothing works in this area without proper hygiene!
• Be careful the first time so that your partner doesn't feel taken by surprise and it doesn't backfire.
• If your partner backs out despite proper preparation, so be it - maybe next time!

Anja Drews - qualified sex educator for ORION

Date: 29.06.2020