Clitoral orgasm: Does it feel different to a vaginal orgasm?

Women describe vaginal orgasms as much more lasting than clitoral orgasms - but they are also harder to achieve. This is because the pleasure centers within our vulva are harder to reach than the clitoris. The G-spot, the even deeper A-spot or the U-spot are stimulated by penetration with the man's penis or the use of dildos or vibrators. This is not always enough for a vaginal orgasm. Sex positions in which the man penetrates particularly deeply and penetrates the woman particularly intensively can help here. If you have an orgasm problem, it also helps to place a pillow under your bottom.

Clitoral orgasm? Vaginal orgasm? I don't care!

I recently had a conversation with a man who had broken up with his last girlfriend because she couldn't climax at the crucial moment during intercourse. He found it exhausting to have to satisfy her additionally or to watch her do it herself. And why did he find it stressful? Because he thought there was something wrong with his partner. And he also thought he couldn't satisfy her properly. Such thoughts naturally lead to frustration. And, incidentally, ultimately even to sexual dysfunction. We are simply more than the sum of our genitals. But this woman was able to climax! Congratulations! Because not all women are granted a clitoral orgasm. In the case of this man, clear words really helped to straighten out the image of 'crazy' sexuality. After all, everything was fine with both of them. It's just a shame that they couldn't enjoy sex with each other because they let Freud put them under pressure. Thank you Freud. THE Womanizer is probably one of the most popular vibrators ever - order here>> . The Acvioo love balls with 10 vibration modes are also an Amazon bestseller.

Yes, there are also women who reach orgasm just by going in and out. At best, this is around a third of all women, at worst 4% of all women. You have to let that melt in your mouth. At least that's the percentage quoted by Viennese doctor and sex therapist Dr. Elia Bragagna. I tend not to think the figures are exaggerated. Some men claim that their wives always orgasm. Really? Are you sure? According to a study by the Charité hospital in Berlin, 90% of women fake orgasms with their partners in order to escape the pressure and make their man feel like a good lover. Yet every second woman is sexually satisfied even without an orgasm - both vaginal and clitoral. But do we have to be satisfied with that? No! We can climax! We can!!! But not like this.

Squirting also involves the secretion of fluid shortly before or after climax, whenthe woman is very aroused and wet. However, this is NOT female ejaculation! There is still no consensus among scholars as to exactly what this fluid is.

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Clitoral orgasm for everyone!

Ultimately, it is the clitoris that is responsible for all our orgasms - and not just one: Multiple orgasms, or multiple orgasms, are also possible. Fueled by fantasy and the right pampering program, women can actually go into a continuous loop. Thanks to masturbation! And that's why we should give her all our attention and, as partners, pay attention to what a woman wants. If she says: "Don't stop!" during lovemaking, for example, when she is being pleasured with her tongue and is on the verge of a clitoral orgasm, then it is a no-go for your partner to simply stop and change positions.

Of course, the clitoris has to be found first - sometimes the person looking for it has to wear glasses. The highly sensitive clitoral glans is hidden at the upper end of the labia minora. Arousal makes it even harder to find, as it then retracts behind its tiny foreskin. And if you can't look that closely, you should just let them show you. Because it's worth it. The glans is the absolute hotspot of female pleasure, with up to 8,000 nerve endings converging here. Direct contact is not always pleasant, which is why circular movements around the area are recommended for stimulation. Sensitive penis glans wearers know this from their own experience. Their glans is also extremely sensitive. Speaking of around it. The glans is only the visible part of the clitoris and by no means the only hotspot down there. Like an iceberg, the much larger part of the clitoris - namely the two clitoral hoods and the associated erectile tissue - is hidden under the outer labia and extends into the vagina and the inside of the body. The highly sensitive vaginal entrance is also enclosed. All of this can be wonderfully incorporated to increase arousal!

The vaginal orgasm is a myth

"Thank you Sigmund Freud. Thank you for putting the flea of the vaginal orgasm in the ears of women - and men too - for centuries. I hope my sarcasm is coming across correctly here. It really is unbelievable how much trouble this stupid claim that only the vaginal orgasm is the true orgasm still causes us today.

Millions of women climax in magnificent, indescribable and life-changing orgasms - with their own hands, the hands and tongues of their partners, with sex toys in every conceivable form. But none of that counts, because the only thing that seems to matter is getting off with your partner during in-and-out play. And preferably at the same time, of course. Thank God I keep getting questions from women who seem to suffer from this problem. Why can't I have a vaginal orgasm? Why do I only ever climax clitorally? Because that's how I know that there is still a lot of need for clarification here. THE VAGINAL ORGASM IS A MYTH!!! Cheers to the clitoris!!!

More attention for the clitoris

If you're lucky, you'll be one of the chosen few who can orgasm simply by rubbing the penis against this invisible part of the clitoris. For some women, the glans is also closer to the vaginal entrance and is stimulated by the movements. In the riding position, everyone else can tilt their pelvis so that the glans rubs against their partner's pelvis. If you're not lucky, you're still lucky to be one of the other chosen ones. Because then there is an extra portion of attention for the little pleasure pearl. In the spooning position, place one leg backwards around your partner's legs and the way is clear for them to be stimulated to their heart's content. Him or her? No need to argue, you can take turns. And what are sex toys for? Small finger toys don't get in the way and massage the clitoris even more. Oh, that's nice. So, please spread the word so that Sigmund Freud finally disappears from our minds, at least in this respect!"

Orgasm: How long does a woman need?

How long it takes for a woman to reach orgasm cannot be determined across the board. Not only does it vary from person to person, but it also depends on various other factors, such as mood, level of arousal and the type of penetration. For example, how long it takes the same woman to climax can vary from time to time.

The duration of orgasm is usually relatively short - between a few seconds and a minute. Nevertheless, there are also women who experience minutes-long climaxes - everything is normal. Just try to enjoy it!

Can a woman come without direct stimulation?

It actually works, because everyone has had wet dreams - we can have orgasms in our sleep without remembering it the next day. According to a study by psychologist Thierry Postel, some women even have an orgasm during childbirth. It is based on statements from midwives - almost 700 women told them that they had the feeling of a climax during labor. And this is not at all unusual, because "the extreme dilation and the simultaneous high pressure on the birth canal could stimulate various erogenous zones", according to the study.

When we talk about an orgasm without stimulation, we are mainly referring to a mental orgasm. Women in particular stimulate themselves with sex fantasies so that they come better. Researchers at Rutgers University in the USA have scientifically proven that women can actually orgasm without being touched. How did they find this out? The researchers measured the brain waves of various test subjects who were all in different situations: For example, one woman was lying in bed next to her husband, another lady was doing pelvic floor exercises. The brain waves clearly showed that the women climaxed in this way without direct contact.

Anja Drews, sexologist for ORION

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