Cunnilingus: the perfect lick job
Most people know the Latin term cunnilingus for licking, lickjob or "doing it with the tongue" . Cunnilingus isthe opposite of fellatio, where it is done to the man or his penis with the mouth and especially the tongue.And similar to an ice cream scoop, cunnilingus involves devotedly sucking, sucking, licking, slurping and licking the female sex (vulva) with the lips and caressing the labia, vaginal entrance and clitoris with the mouth and tongue . I can't help but think of the video we published on the ORION blog, in which US porn stars give tips for really good kunilingus. And they do this in a highly culinary way by slurping, licking and sucking on real oysters rather than a vagina. Not everyone likes oysters. But anyone who has seen this video will never be able to eat oysters again without having erotic thoughts about oral sex! What I particularly like about the video is the lightness with which the girls approach it. Enjoyable, humorous and sensual. And that's exactly what makes cunnilingus a would-be I-lingus. Let's take a closer look at this wonderful oral sex, because a climax and even multiple orgasms are guaranteed!
Cunnilingus - a panacea for oral sex? No way!
"What do I have to do with my mouth so that a woman is guaranteed to have an orgasm during oral sex?" I get this question a lot. Well, what do you have to do? How nice it would be if there was a patent remedy not only for perfect oral sex, but also for orgasms. But there isn't. And why not? Because we're talking about people here and people feel differently - even during oral sex. And even if you have the right technique for oral sex for the one woman you really want to give it to, she may not (yet) be in the right mood. And then it won't work. Because that's the problematic and yet most beautiful thing about sex: neither technique, position nor empathy alone make the difference. Dear men, it has to be a good mix of both so that your partner gets her money's worth - just like with fellatio!
So if you want to pamper your lover's vagina with your tongue and lips, make sure you've got the timing right for oral sex! If your partner is already bored in the sheets, sees everything twice, is about to fall asleep or only lets you do it to have some peace and quiet, the chances of a successful conclusion are slim. In every respect. A man should seriously consider whether sex is the right thing right now. You think that's too negative? Yes, it is too. But far too often, situations like this actually occur between partners and then you wonder why things don't work out as you'd like.
Cunnilingus: licking with pleasure
So let's take a pleasurable approach. Both partners are relaxed, in the mood for each other and have time until they drop. Then let's get going. Pounce on her with your mouth, push her legs apart, tell her how good she looks, how much you like the sight of her vagina, how good she smells and tastes - and that you're in the mood for oral sex. Pay close attention to your partner's reactions. Is she stretching her vagina towards you in anticipation of the approaching oral sex? How is her breathing? Is it getting faster? Deeper? Is her vagina getting wet? Not everyone dares to moan with pleasure. Women in particular often don't like to show their arousal so openly in front of their partner, they are almost ashamed of it. You are the man - so set a good example and show her how much you want this right now. Kiss, lick and love the labia minora and labia majora with your mouth. Up and down with your tongue, to the right, to the left, circle the clitoris with your tongue, slowly approach this hotspot of female pleasure with your lips. Moan with pleasure and show that you as a man really enjoy oral sex. Run your tongue lasciviously over your lips.
There is nothing better than realizing that your partner is really enjoying what you are doing. You can slide a pillow under their pelvis and get into an even better position to explore the vagina with your mouth. Use your tongue to explore her vaginal entrance too. How deep do you think you can go? Not only the clitoris, but also the perineum and anus are highly sensitive areas that you can explore with your tongue. Decide how far you dare to go during oral sex and pay attention to your lover's reactions. Of course, you can also use your fingers for support during oral sex - perhaps to open the labia slightly and reach the clitoris even better. A little tip: it's not the in-and-out that stimulates the sensitive vaginal walls and therefore your partner. It's the pressure and you achieve this with circular movements that make up the stimulation. Give it a try! If you have pampered your partner with your lips according to all the rules of the art, then she may also feel like fellatio - perhaps she would also like to pamper your penis with her tongue. But if not, that must be okay too. I wish you lots of fun with it!
Safer sex: use lick wipes during oral sex
If you change sex partners frequently, you should use a dental dam for the vagina during cunnilingus - it's practically the equivalent of a condom. A dental dam is at least 15 by 15 centimetres in size and is made of very thin latex or latex-free rubber. It protects against sexually transmitted diseases. As such an infection often remains asymptomatic, pathogens can be passed on unnoticed if sexual partners change frequently. Similarly, you can also use cling film or cut-open disposable gloves during oral sex to protect against diseases.
Licking wipes for safer sex are available from MEDintim, for example - they are made of latex and have a strawberry flavor. Sheer Glyde Dams l ick wipes are available in the flavors cola or wildberry.
Lick properly: The lick job gets even hotter in this position
Of course, there are also a few positions that make oral sex even more pleasurable for a woman. Above all, there are positions in which the man can stimulate his partner perfectly with his tongue and lips. A real classic, for example, is the floating butterfly. While the man lies on his back, his partner kneels over his face. She looks in the direction of your feet and leans against a wall or the headboard of the bed. This puts the man in a very comfortable position to pamper his partner with his tongue. Whether labia or clitoris - from this position, you can really reach everything with your mouth.
Using sex toys during cunnilingus
Sex toys may not necessarily be part of the classic lick job, but if she likes it, you should definitely have them to hand. Many women like to be pampered alternately or simultaneously with tongue and dildos. We have already described how you can also use your fingers skillfully. See what mood your partner is in and play around her vulva and clitoris with the dildo or vibrator. If she stretches out her body longingly, then spoil her with it. Bring your partner to an absolute climax by licking her at the same time.
Cunnilingus - do's and don'ts during oral sex
Do:
- When partners perform oral sex, personal hygiene is important. Take a shower or a bath beforehand - even together. Tip: Try this vaginal shower too!
- Men should pay attention to whether their partner is in the mood for oral sex.
- Show her that you also enjoy oral sex!
- Explore the intimate area with your tongue carefully but exploratively - let your tongue dance from the labia over the vaginal entrance and to the clitoris and follow your partner's instructions. Want to bet that she is particularly sensitive around the clitoris?
- Feel free to use your fingers and sex toys - circular movements will get you there.
- Safe sex is important with changing partners.
Don't:
- Don't become a puppy during cunnilingus. Unless it's role play.
- Be careful with your teeth during oral sex, women don't want to have bite marks on their clitoris, labia and the like. It's better to protect your teeth with your lips.
- Don't just lick your partner to get a blowjob yourself - be unselfish and don't just think about your penis and a possible fellatio!
- Don't think that one woman or vagina is like another - it doesn't work the other way around either.
Anja Drews - sexologist for ORION
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