Masturbation: Why women should do it themselves

During puberty, we start to take an interest in our sex and realize that masturbation is a great thing - not only is it fun, but it also helps us get to know our sexuality and our bodies better. So it's no wonder that masturbation increases our chances of orgasm during sex. But solo sex even has an effect on our physical well-being. Masturbation is really healthy: orgasms release the hormone oxytocin, which puts us in a good mood and can also prevent depression. In addition, masturbation is like a workout for the pelvic floor, as it strengthens the muscles. Also exciting: solo sex helps relieve pain and strengthens our immune system. If that's not enough reasons to get your hands dirty and masturbate ...

By the way : If you think you're alone: according to a survey by Women's Health (2019), in which 1,300 women were asked about masturbation, 98% of women said they do it themselves. 45% do it two to three times a week, 10% do it several times a day, 24% once a week and 21% even less. Masturbation lasts between one and more than 60 minutes, and multiple orgasms are quite common.

Female masturbation: clitoral stimulation

The easiest way for women to climax is to stimulate the clitoris for themselves and the vulva as a whole during masturbation. You can use your fingers, objects or sex toys for stimulation - anything that is fun and turns you on. Some women can also reach orgasm quickly by squeezing their thighs tightly together - this is practically a quickie with yourself.

Masturbation for women: Vaginal stimulation

In contrast to clitoral stimulation, where the clitoris is stimulated, vaginal stimulation takes place through the man's penis - i.e. through penetration. As it is much harder to reach all the pleasure centers in the vulva, a vaginal orgasm is harder to achieve - but women describe the feeling as stronger.

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Stay relaxed and try it out

Of course, not every woman is the same and we all like different things. But without trying things out, you have no chance of finding out what you like or don't like. So don't be frustrated if you don't climax, it will work all the better with a different technique.

Masturbation for women: The right ambience

Sex doesn't work if the mood isn't right. The same applies to masturbation for women. There may well be a variety of stimulating situations that appeal to you. Whether it's quick and daring during your lunch break or with atmospheric music in the background on a relaxed Sunday afternoon - the possibilities are endless.

However, we recommend that you start by finding some time, peace and quiet and a comfortable environment to masturbate undisturbed. Make yourself comfortable at home in your bed or on your sofa. Make sure that nobody disturbs you, because nothing is more unpleasant than being disturbed by your children or husband when you are satisfying yourself. Also switch your phone to silent and put it far away. If you want, you can put on your favorite music, while other people are attracted to watching porn while masturbating. And one thing is essential for female masturbation: imagination. In your imagination, you can do whatever you want, you can imagine situations and people that get you in the mood and with the right amount of fantasy, masturbation is taken to another level.

Our tip: Pretty lingerie is not only attractive for sex with a partner. You can also use them for masturbation for women, and all for yourself. Slip into your favorite underwear and take a good look at yourself in the mirror, dance a little for yourself and simply enjoy the sight.

The most important tips and tricks for masturbation

As soon as you're in the mood, you can get started. However, the focus here should not just be on the clitoris and vagina, but the whole body wants to be caressed and stroked. Lie down and start exploring your body with your hands and fingers. Stroking your thighs, face and stomach and playing with your breasts and nipples can be a good start. Then slowly work your way down until you get to where you want to go. And here too, there is a lot to explore. The clitoris doesn't just consist of the little nub, but extends under the labia and further back. There are a lot of nerves here that want to be stimulated. Gently stroking and rolling the outer labia can also be very arousing. The labia minora are also very receptive to gentle touches. The entrance to the vagina is also particularly dense with nerves.

Masturbation for women can take many different forms and does not have to end in orgasm. The journey is the goal here. If you would like to have one or more orgasms, try out what you like best. Not every woman reaches orgasm in the same way and it often takes many attempts before it works. However, one variation that is promising for many women is, as already mentioned, clitoral stimulation. This involves playing with the clitoris with your fingers, stroking it, rubbing it, rhythmically tapping it or performing the movement that pleases you the most until you climax. It is also important to moisturize it sufficiently so as not to irritate the sensitive skin. You can use a lubricating ointment for the intimate area or a lubricating gel.

Another variant of masturbation for women is vaginal satisfaction. This involves inserting one or more fingers into the vagina to find out which area and type of touch is most pleasing. The movement of the fingers and the pressure on the front vaginal wall, as this is where the G-spot is supposed to be, can lead to a climax. Of course, you can also use sex toys for this. The combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation is also particularly appealing.

Masturbation: Variation options for women

To add more variety to masturbation for women, why not try something different? For example, use a pillow that you rub against while lying on your stomach to stimulate your clitoris. Dildos, vibrators and clitoral suckers are also great additions for varied masturbation. If you like, you can also take a relaxing bath or masturbate in the shower (for example with the help of the water jets from the shower head). You could also try the following variation: lie on your stomach, hold your vagina with your hand and move rhythmically.

There's no one-size-fits-all answer as to which position is best for an orgasm. Every woman has different preferences and likes different things. Nevertheless, many women find it pleasant to lie on their back for masturbation. This gives you particularly good access to the clitoris and vaginal entrance, while the body can lie relaxed. Every woman has her own techniques! However, a pillow under your back can be helpful, as women then come particularly well. Solo sex in the shower or bath is also popular - you can achieve real pleasure wonders with the shower head! If a woman delays her orgasm, she experiences it all the more intensely - but don't stress: it comes as it comes and then just enjoy it!

Trend: Mindful masturbation

Ever heard of 'mindful masturbation'? It's a sex trend that aims to help us understand our bodies better and reach orgasm more easily. This mindful version of masturbation is intended to lead to more self-love and a better relationship with your own body. It is not necessarily about reaching orgasm. The main goals are relaxation and stress reduction. The most important thing is that you consciously take time for yourself. You can find out exactly how the method works here >>

What is the reason for not having an orgasm during masturbation?

If you don't orgasm, there can be many reasons - whether you're making love with your partner or having solo sex. Perhaps you have too many thoughts running through your head that you can't switch off? Sometimes important to-dos - professional or personal - can be a real lust killer and ensure that your head is running at full speed, but not your libido. If this is the case, it may not be the right time to get down to business and you may have to postpone your little masturbation session. However, it may also help you to take a deep breath, put on some relaxing music and create a feel-good atmosphere with the help of candlelight in which you can let yourself go completely. It's worth a try!

Masturbate: Do you shy away from your own sexuality?

If you find masturbating embarrassing, it may be because you shy away from your own sexuality. This often has to do with a strict upbringing - children in puberty are often told not to touch themselves. But this is not true, because the vagina, or in the case of boys and men the penis, is part of our body and feeling pleasure is the most natural thing in the world. Masturbation is therefore also part of a healthy sexuality!

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