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How bondage games can heat up the erotic mood
Bondage games? Many people first think of hardcore bondage, which is certainly not suitable for everyone. However, there are variations in between that are simply exciting and can really spice up your lovemaking. You can surprise your lover and simply tie him up - it brings variety into the bedroom. We tell you what makes it so fascinating and give you the ultimate six tips for bondage games.
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1. bondage games are a game of the senses
Why is bondage play so erotic and fascinating? Quite simply - you are at the mercy of your partner in an extremely exciting way. What's more, bondage play fulfills a sexual fantasy. Total surrender is the order of the day, which is why bondage games naturally mean trust. What is he about to do? Where will he touch me? Will he go straight to the point or take it very slowly? More excitement is hardly possible! Bondage games are a must for couples who like to experiment, but everyone else should really give it a try. Here's how it works:
First, you should rob the man lying in front of you, who is virtually helpless at your mercy thanks to the restraints, of his sight. Blindfold him! A scarf or shawl is just as suitable for this as his own tie as a restraint. His senses can also be beguiled with scent and music. Then let a cuddly soft feather, a cold pearl necklace, a soft brush or a heated object glide over his naked body. The mixture of gentle caresses and light tickling is particularly good around the erogenous zones - the perfect prelude to erotic bondage play of any kind.
Tip: If you would like to be tied up and it just doesn't happen during lovemaking, then you should express your desire specifically. Your partner can't read your mind! If couples are rather conservative in the bedroom, then it makes sense to feel it out over a glass of wine and a relaxed atmosphere - often the eroticism then simply takes its course ... So make sure you have the right sex toys to hand!
2. bondage is a matter of trust - and with rules
Despite the anticipation and a certain amount of excitement, you don't really know what to expect. Trust is therefore very important so that you can let yourself go and enjoy the bondage game. The prerequisite is that both of you want it. SM beginners in particular want to try things out first and test their limits. Of course, you can try to gently persuade your partner, perhaps they will agree. But if you realize he doesn't enjoy it, then leave it for now. Men are sometimes a bit brash and women often think they have to go along with everything. But that's not the case. You say yes or no - sex should always be equal, even if you like to play the submissive part. After all, this is just role play. Sometimes it makes sense to agree on a code word for certain things - that way you can increase your pleasure or stop if you don't want more or don't want to go beyond certain limits.
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3. restraints with handcuffs
Handcuffs are extremely popular when it comes to exciting bondage games. When you swing a pair lasciviously back and forth in your hand, it's very arousing for him. After all, it's clear what's about to happen! You can use handcuffs for the wrists only, but also for the ankles, in which case he is totally at your mercy. But be careful when putting them on, the handcuffs should not be too tight so that hands and feet are not constricted. There are, of course, various handcuffs for the SM sector, classic, playful with fur trim or made of leather with buckles, for example from Leweiko - an eye mask is also included.
Tip: If you don't dare to use handcuffs straight away or don't have any, there are plenty of alternatives. Beginners in particular should start with scarves to test whether the feeling of being tied up is for them. Silk scarves are suitable for this as they are particularly soft and do not chafe. Cotton scarves are also suitable. You can also use a tie that you loop loosely around your wrists. The only important thing is not to use nylon. The material chafes and knots are difficult to untie, which is why they are unsuitable for bondage games.
4. massage it with a vibrating effect!
A vibrator only makes women happy? Wrong! Men can also have fun with these wriggling givers of pleasure. What this looks like in practice is of course very different - but when he is tied up, a vibrating sex toy of this type is perfect for a massage session. In addition to several vibration levels, some products also have different attachments.
5. bondage play with a chair!
While the first two tips for bondage play are mainly suitable for use when lying down, we will now turn our attention to the man who is sitting and still tied up. If you still have the vibrator from tip 2 to hand, sit on a chair opposite and demonstrate its actual purpose to the man. If you have already put it away again, simply use your hand. And the bravest of you should look the helpless man very deeply in the eye.
6. tie him to the bed!
Back to the horizontal position - now the buffet is open. While HE lies there stretched out, you can help yourself as you please. This undertaking has the clear advantage of increasing his pleasure immeasurably. Because all the visual stimuli are rubbed right under his nose, while he has to make do without any touching. You can also take control of your own climax.
7. enjoy it!
Of course, the best way to do this is with seductive flavors - so drizzle honey, a delicious milkshake or even a little liqueur on his naked body and lick it off with relish. If he behaves well, he might even have a taste.
8. dance around him!
Another idea for a man tied to a chair? Then why not give him an erotic dance? While he can't move and you dance around him confidently and super sexily in exciting lingerie, his lust will only go to his head.
9. no-go's with bondage games
Every couple wants to bring a breath of fresh air into the bedroom from time to time. However, sex toys or special practices can frighten your partner. If your partner finds bondage games with other people erotic, they don't necessarily want to be tied up like a package themselves. Even if he expresses the desire to try it out, he may still feel uncomfortable. The same applies to you, of course! Finding something tingling in others and doing it yourself are always two different things. Therefore, the following things are a no-go:
1. starting or continuing when your partner says no - a no, is a no!
2. being too forceful - if you're not a committed S&M fan, then please introduce the bondage games gently.
3. inflicting pain - if you are not both explicitly into it, please do not tie the restraints in such a way that your partner suffers injuries or can no longer breathe.
4. assert your own will - the word "couple games" already implies it: it should be fun for both of you!
5. insult your partner - he is not a "pussy" or a "wimp" if you are not satisfied with his "performance". He will never forgive something like that!
I hope you have lots of fun trying out your own personal bondage games!!!
ORION blogger Maike