How the prostate massage works
Let the pleasure and tension increase by devoting a lot of time to the buttocks before moving on to the prostate. Then lubricate your finger first and spread some lubricant on the anus. Now you can slide in with your middle finger. If you notice any resistance, just wait a moment and then continue. The sphincter muscle is naturally contracted and should therefore be carefully stretched and loosened. You can do this by gently shaking your finger. This relaxes the muscles at this point. Let your outstretched finger circle in slow, calm movements as far as your hand allows. You can now feel the prostate at a depth of five to seven centimetres diagonally below. At this point, the tissue is somewhat firmer with a smooth to slightly rough surface. Gently circle the gland with your finger, apply light pressure to the prostate and release. Hold the pressure at this point and vibrate with your finger. You can slide from left to right and back again or up and down. Play with the pressure and speed when stimulating the prostate. Pay close attention to your partner and what they particularly like about this special massage. Every body is different! If the sphincter muscle is wide enough, you can use your index finger. Then the prostate can also be rolled between your fingers.
For another massage method, you don't have to go through the anus, which may be more comfortable for some men. You can also massage the prostate via the perineum. For this type of prostate massage, your lover should lie on his back so that you have good access to the perineum. The area that you can rub, press and knead is located directly behind the testicles. This indirectly stimulates the prostate via the perineum. Of course, you can also caress the penis and testicles with your other hand. A vibrator can also be used at this point to stimulate the prostate even more. Just try out together which touches feel good, whether you need a vibrator and how far you can go with the massage.
Incidentally, massaging the prostate has many positive effects on the body - but only if it is done correctly, of course. The massage keeps the prostate healthy, strengthens men's potency and even counteracts premature ejaculation.
Prostate stimulation: small precautions
Don't just surprise your partner with a finger in the buttocks. You probably wouldn't like that either. Talk about the subject beforehand and check whether he is keen on this new experience of prostate stimulation. You need to talk anyway, because the anus should be clean before the massage. You can easily clean it with lukewarm water. An enema is not absolutely necessary before the prostate massage. Unless that's exactly what turns your partner on. If you feel more comfortable with this, you can also wear a finger ring or disposable glove during the massage. Short fingernails are important so that you don't accidentally injure the sensitive intestinal mucosa in your lust. A sex toy must not come into contact with other intimate areas after it has been used in the anus. This is because there are bacteria in the anus that can lead to infections in the vagina or penis. This is why you should always use condoms during anal intercourse. If you are not using Vaseline as a lubricant, you can simply put a condom over the toy beforehand. This will keep it clean and you can continue playing with it afterwards. However, this is not recommended with Vaseline, as the grease can cause the material of the vibrator, dildo etc. to become porous and tear.
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Prostate massage: relaxation leads to arousal
Before you get started, you can massage your lover all over his body. Warm massage oil lets your hands glide over the skin. You don't need to knead the body too vigorously during this massage - after all, this is supposed to be an erotic affair and not a medical excursion. You can spend a little longer massaging the particularly sensitive areas such as the base of the neck, the inside of the arms and thighs and the sides of the body. It's especially nice if you let yourself glide smoothly over his entire backside and he can feel your breasts at the same time. Men particularly like this. When you have the feeling that he is in the mood and the prostate stimulation can begin, kneel between his slightly spread thighs. To raise his bottom a little, place a pillow under his hips for the prostate massage. There are special lubricants for the anal area, but Vaseline is also very suitable. As the anus does not produce its own lubricant, you are welcome to use a little more.
Where is the prostate located and why does massage excite men so much?
The male prostate surrounds the urethra below the bladder and fills with fluid during arousal or stimulation, which shoots the sperm out through the urethra during orgasm. Prostate secretions make up 30 percent of this fluid. The prostate is also known as the man's G-spot and, like its female counterpart, is one of the erogenous zones in the body - a real point of pleasure! And like all of these wonderful areas of the body, touching this spot is only pleasurable when arousal is already in play.
Then the gland is also much easier to feel, as it fills with fluid like a sponge. So before you embark on your erotic exploration and start massaging the prostate, you should first get your partner in the mood. There are a range of special dildos and vibrators for prostate stimulation that are curved in such a way that they hit the chestnut-sized gland with pinpoint accuracy when inserted into the anus. Yes, that's right, you have to take the vibrator & co. through your bottom. Appropriate body hygiene in advance and the generous use of lubricant are therefore essential. It's even more intimate if you pamper your partner with a prostate massage using your own hands. Men love it, I promise!
I am curious to hear about your experiences with prostate massage. Both the women's and the men's!
Anja Drews - Sexologist for ORION