While some argue about whether there is anything to the phrase "Stupid fucks good", others are really turned on by an intelligent counterpart. However, I wouldn't think that this relates to sexual orientation in the true sense of the word. But who knows if someone who has just got really into it might not get over it. There probably isn't too much research on this yet. But what is sapiosexuality anyway?
Intelligence has a high value in perception
The term Homo sapiens stands for the last living species of the genus Homo. Homo sapiens, that's us humans, plus or minus seven billion of us who populate the earth today. The "sapiens" here means "wise", the wise human being. Whether we are really as wise and intelligent as we always believe remains to be seen. Often enough, however, we are unable to see beyond the end of our noses. Now, among these seven billion, intelligence is distributed very differently. The more of it one has, the more exciting the sapiosexual finds it. Appearance is at least secondary. It's all about the intoxicating intellect of the person in question. This is especially understandable if you have a lot to show for yourself. Because then you're both speaking as equals and can inspire each other intellectually. And as we know, the brain is our biggest erogenous zone.
I also find intelligence attractive. But not unconditionally. So I have to think for a moment. Which man is at the top of the list of intelligent people? The physicist Stephen Hawking immediately springs to mind. Yes, he really is demonstrably highly intelligent. So highly interesting? Yes, definitely. I would love to get to know him. But I could never hold a candle to him. What would I talk to him about? I'd probably stand there staring at him and stuttering to myself. On the other hand, he seems to have a great sense of humor. He performed the song "The Girl Is Mine", originally a duet by Michael Jackson and Paul McCartney, together with the US lounge singer Richard Cheese. Great! I think that's great too. And maybe that would be a conversation starter, because music is my physics. But we'd probably be too different as a couple. In any case, conversation is the aphrodisiac of sapiosexuals. But there has to be a spark. I recently met a man who not only seemed incredibly intelligent, but was also extremely good-looking. Bomb, I thought. And? We couldn't talk. It's not enough to throw quotes around when you're hiding behind them. This spark had not ignited.
Science is looking for explanations for this phenomenon
As always, there are also scientific attempts to explain the phenomenon of sapiosexuality. For example, researchers at the University of Mexico have found correlations between a man's fertility and his intelligence. According to this, men with a higher intelligence quotient have healthier and better sperm. If this is indeed the case, it may simply be because these men earn more, can buy better quality food and therefore possibly eat better. Perhaps they also do more sport and lead a healthier lifestyle overall. THAT has an effect on the quality of the sperm. Women would also be attracted to men with a higher IQ, as their instincts would then perceive a better chance of having offspring. Isn't this more socially conditioned? Men with a higher IQ have a better chance of getting a good job, earn more money and therefore offer more opportunities for a higher social status. Could that possibly be the reason? The legacy of the traditional family structure? And if this is the case, and we are once again at the mercy of our evolutionary heritage, how is it that couples with a higher educational status have fewer children?
On the one hand, a study by sex product manufacturer Lovehoney found a correlation between intelligence and high libido. On the other hand, however, it was also found that this does not mean that the walls are shaking in the bedroom. It seems to be the opposite. People with a high IQ have less sex than any other group. Do they think too much? Are they getting in their own way? Are other things simply more important?
Don't worry, there is still sex for normal people
As always, nothing is eaten as hot as it is cooked. OF COURSE it is always stimulating and sometimes even arousing when we realize that we are on the same wavelength as the other person. The other person can be just as intelligent as we are or even more intelligent. But how do we measure that? Because the other person knows more? Is it a question of pure facts and data? Some people are blessed with an intellect that makes it easy for them to acquire a great deal of knowledge. Does that alone make you interesting? No. We may be impressed, but we are far from sexually aroused. It's how we deal with this intelligence and how we approach other people with it. It always depends on whether we feel comfortable with the other person and whether we understand each other. And what are we actually looking for? A wise shoulder to lean on? A witty exchange of ideas? Or someone who confirms us? Someone who makes us feel special together?
Sources: medicaldaily.com and huffingtonpost.de