The prejudice that stupid people are better in bed is just as persistent. I don't know about you, but when I hear the saying "Stupid fucks well", I tend to have a male speaker in my mind's eye. But maybe that's just another prejudice on my part. I don't know where that saying comes from or who came up with it.
- The stupid ones, to enhance themselves?
- Or the smart ones to devalue the stupid ones? Okay, maybe not the stupid ones, because that would mean the smart ones would be questioning their own qualities.
But I find it astonishing that there are actually researchers who devote themselves to this question. Stupid fucks good? Seriously? How do you want to measure that? And what are they trying to prove with this statement anyway?
What exactly does "fuck well" mean?
In order to establish a correlation between intelligence and good fucking, you first have to define the parameters. What exactly does "fucking well" mean? If we ask ten people about this, we will probably get ten different answers:
- Long can
- Suck or lick well
- Getting an orgasm
- Jiggle your boobs
- Moaning with pleasure
- Have a great penis
- Fitting into the nurse costume
- Try as many different positions as possible
- Doing the same thing for as long as possible
Tastes are very different. What one person finds extremely pleasurable, another may find boring. And above all, sex with different partners can be as different as sex with the same partner on different days. It usually only gets good in bed when we have a connection with the other person, when we feel wanted and desired, when we can give ourselves and make it clear what we want. And is this really supposed to depend on a person's intelligence? The dumber, the more empathy?
Who is "stupid"?
An intelligence test could clarify this. However, these tests are also controversial. They are accused of not being objective or of being heavily dependent on the motivation of the person being tested. If a reward is tempting, the results increase.
According to psychology professor Angela Duckworth from the University of Pennsylvania, this is particularly true for people in the lower IQ range. People who are colloquially referred to as stupid often display astonishing cunning and can therefore quickly outsmart people who are luminaries in their field or show them the way in everyday matters.
I have read that people with a low IQ are able to block out fears or thoughts more easily. Really? Do less intelligent people really have fewer everyday fears? Less relationship stress? Less money worries? Are less intelligent women less inhibited because of their supposedly inadequate body? I highly doubt it. How presumptuous to even make such an assertion!
In his study "Sexual Life of Germans", sexologist Norbert Kluge investigated how school qualifications and sex are related: 62.2 percent of those with a secondary school leaving certificate had sex at least once a week. This was followed by academics with 59.9 percent, with former secondary school pupils bringing up the rear with 37.6 percent. So what does this tell us? Does quantity equal quality?
You can't lump everyone together
Yes, some people fuck well because they are stupid. Others don't fuck well because they are stupid. The same applies to people who are considered intelligent. There really are differences there too! Madness! However, it seems to be human nature to find an authoritative answer and a corresponding rule for every question in the universe. We now have more than seven billion fellow human beings. Is it really possible to make a statement that is as global as "stupid fucks good"?
By the way, I used a few foreign words above to give myself the appearance of intelligence. According to the prejudice, however, I wouldn't be good in bed. Or am I particularly good because I deal with the subject professionally? I'll leave the answer to this question to your imagination. However, if I were to ask all my past and present lovers about this, there would certainly be very different answers. For some it was great with me, for others it goes as far as "I can't remember them at all" ;-)
Sources: brigitte.de & alltagsforschung.de
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