What exactly is a penis that is "too small"?

One man worries about 16 centimeters and the other about ten. According to an international study, the average length is 9.16 centimetres when flaccid and 13.12 centimetres when erect. Average means that there are just as many men with more length as there are with less. Men are very differently endowed. Except for porn actors. They all have large sizes. But they are also chosen for their penis.

But not every woman likes big. Just as there are lovers of large or small, round or pear-shaped breasts, there are also lovers of large and small, thick or thin penes. Incidentally, the latter is the correct plural for penis. It just sounds a bit unusual. Some women like it when their partner thrusts hard with a large penis, while others find it painful. Some prefer the firmer stimulation of a thicker penis and others appreciate the fact that a slightly thinner penis fits more easily into another orifice ;-)

Sex with a small penis: even the shortest penis reaches the female hotspots

The most sensitive area for a female climax is NOT at the very back of the vagina. Even if there are women who find touching their cervix particularly erotic. However, it is not inaccessible either. A vagina has a length of around 6.5 to 12.5 centimetres. No, when it comes to orgasm, the clitoris is still the most important point of contact.

The clitoral pearl stands out in this regard. With its unbeatable 8,000 nerve endings, it can be seen and felt at the beginning of the inner lips. But there's more. With its two invisible legs, it extends all the way to the vaginal entrance and into the body. This is also where the G-spot is located. This area is a collection of glands that nestle around the urethra, similar to the male prostate. When aroused, they fill with fluid and can then be felt with a finger at a distance of around four to five centimetres from the vaginal entrance on the side facing the abdominal wall. This whole area can also become a very receptive zone. So, zero problemo.

Can a woman really not feel a small penis?

There are women who think they can't really feel a smaller penis. At least that's what I've often heard. And unfortunately so have some men. They are then quick to blame the poor penis. But it's probably not their fault. Sure, a much bigger one makes more noise. And if you expect high-performance sport with record depths, that may also be better. But then the question arises as to why this is necessary. Does a woman perhaps feel so little of herself that she needs these thrusts? Does she feel more desirable the deeper the man thrusts? Has she seen this in porn? That's just food for thought. A nice word in this context ...

During sex: How is it possible not to feel a penis?

The vagina is not an open tube. It is a tube whose sides lie close together. Even a small tampon has to be pushed through it. When we are aroused, the blood vessels fill up with blood and it is precisely this vaginal entrance that pushes itself even closer together and thus also encloses any penis. When we are aroused, we also perceive every touch much more intensely. If, on the other hand, we are not really aroused, we actually feel less. This means a lot of head cinema, foreplay or whatever we need to get in the mood!

By the way,touching and feeling yourself is also very important. By stimulating the pressure receptors in the vagina, this often neglected part of the body connects much better with our brain.

Together they both have more of it

So you see, a small penis is actually no excuse for bad sex. When things aren't going so well, other factors almost always play an important role. It takes two to have sex. And it's not the case that one person does it and the other enjoys it. No, one person can see if they can change their movements and pay more attention to their vulva and the entrance to their vagina. And the other doesn't let herself be serviced, but watches her move in such a way that she also gets her "due". And both together play with their arousal and wait until both are ready to go. Then the whole thing is more fun anyway. No matter how big the penis is.

He can pay attention to this during sex if the penis is rather small and/or thin

As mentioned, a woman's most sensitive area is at the entrance to the vagina. And this area can also be reached with a short penis. When your lover is aroused, the outer third of the vagina swells so much that the diameter of the vaginal entrance is halved. This means that your partner should also be really excited before you even penetrate her. Instead of the usual in-and-out motion, you can make circular, stirring movements with your penis. This will massage the sensitive vaginal entrance and create more points of contact.

If women say they don't feel anything, it may be because they are not really aroused and simply don't feel like it. And if they are not aroused, this wonderful erogenous zone does not come to life. So they feel much less. Perhaps she had a different expectation, perhaps you were simply too hasty. But you shouldn't let that impress you. Because you have plenty of opportunities to show what a great lover you are! And then penis size really isn't the deciding factor any more.

Small penis: these are the best sex positions

If you have a small penis, positions in which it can penetrate deeper are particularly suitable:

• There is also a riding position here. In the Kamasutra, this is called the proud queen. You lie on your back and your lover sits on top of you with her face towards your feet. You can hold on to her thighs and pull her firmly onto your penis.
• In the doggy position, you kneel behind your partner and can penetrate her particularly deeply this way. The doggy style is perfect for sex with a small penis.
• In Big Mountain, your partner doesn't rest on her upper arms, but on a mountain of pillows in front of her. That's a bit more comfortable. Or you can do it in the kitchen or dining room and she lies down with her upper body on the seat of a chair.
• How about the butterfly? You don't need a bed for this, but a sturdy table. You stand in front of the table, your loved one lies on the edge of the table with her pelvis on the table surface and puts her legs over your shoulder. You'll also have a wonderful view at the same time! Your loved one will probably have to lift her pelvis a little. If this is too strenuous, simply place another cushion underneath. Or two.
• Do you already know the elephant position? In this position, you can have great fun even with a small penis. You lie on your stomach and support yourself on your forearms while HE lies on top of you in a prone position and penetrates you from behind. This allows the man to stimulate you particularly well.
• The reverse riding position is also extremely appealing because the woman can stimulate her clitoris. The penetration angle is also different to the normal riding position. A big plus: he can massage her breasts from behind.

Anal sex? Wonderful with a thin penis! One man's joy is another man's sorrow ☺

Anja Drews - qualified sex educator for ORION

Date: 23.11.2020