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Sex without an erection: the 5 best tips
What to do if the penis won't cooperate? This problem can occur more frequently in people over 50. But don't worry, we have the 5 best tips for good sex - even without an erection.
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More than half of all men are said to be dissatisfied with their erections between the ages of 50 and 70. This is according to Tracey Cox, one of the world's leading authors on sex and relationships, in her book "Super Sex Starts at 50". Most of the changes in erections in middle-aged men are potency problems, which is a normal part of getting older. For example, it can take longer to get an erection and it can also be less reliable and firm, explains Cox. Nevertheless, this doesn't have to be a reason to stop having sexual intercourse. We have summarized the 5 best tips from Tracey Cox for good sex even without an erection.
Sex without an erection: the 5 best tips
1. take it easy
Take your time. Celebrate getting undressed, exchange kisses and caresses, satisfy yourself or let him do it for you. The important thing is to take the pressure off and don't force anything.
2. it's not just about penetration
Sex is about so much more than just the act of penetration. It's about touching, being close, feeling each other's bodies, looking into each other's eyes or kissing, says Cox. Even without an erection, these things are possible!
3. don't give up on sex
Many men are uncomfortable talking to their partner about problems in bed. If you notice that your partner is "shutting down", talk to him about it and ask him what's going on. Talk to each other and find a solution together.
4. use sex toys
When the body changes or health problems become noticeable, problems often arise during sex. The solution can be the use of sex toys. If his erection isn't hard enough or one of them takes too long to orgasm, sex toys are a great solution! It can take the pressure off both of them to know that a vibrator is at hand to guarantee an orgasm that doesn't depend on your partner's performance.
5. give compliments
One aspect that should not be underestimated when two people get close is compliments. They make us feel accepted and desired. Tell your partner how much you want them, what you like about them or how good they make you feel. This boosts his self-esteem!