Part of a complex topic
However, this is not intended to explain the entire phenomenon. You could write hundreds of pages about it. We should rather understand which things have an effect on sexual desire. Basically, we can say that pleasure arises above all when you can discover something new sexually. This always happens when you have a new sexual partner. You don't know the other person yet, you don't know what they like, how they move and what they bring to sex. All of this needs to be explored. We want to find out. And we want to have sex with this person.
Healthy selfishness during sex
You also feel more like having sex when it's good. But when is sex actually good? Everyone decides that for themselves. In any case, sex is good when it meets your personal expectations and preferences. It is therefore important to incorporate these ideas into sex. In other words, you should bring a certain amount of selfishness to sex. Of course, you also respond to your partner, but you should also pay just as much attention to yourself. Realizing your sexual fantasies can be incredibly exciting and pleasurable!
Fantasy gives wings
While we're on the subject of fantasies. There is probably nothing more valuable for sexual pleasure than having a vivid sexual fantasy. It is the driving force and motor for sexual pleasure. Being able to imagine things well means a lot for sexual pleasure. Some people can only experience an orgasm through imagination. They are not touched by anyone and do not even touch themselves. That's how powerful it can be.
Responsibility and pleasure
Sexual pleasure also requires space. The unknown has an infinite amount of space. One reason why sexual desire decreases over time with prolonged togetherness is the lack of space. Being together for longer develops more intimacy. You get to know each other better and know what the other person thinks and says in certain situations. This also increases the responsibility in the relationship. That's not a bad thing from this perspective. However, it does restrict the space that sexual pleasure needs. A one-night stand can be so exciting and pleasurable because the responsibility is completely different. You can live it up and know that you will (perhaps) never see the person again.
Understanding sexual desire
You should always keep these points in mind when reflecting on your current situation and asking yourself why your sexual desire seems to be particularly high or particularly low at the moment. Of course, there are other reasons, such as health, stress levels, satisfaction in the relationship and so on. Nevertheless, you should understand the concept of sexual desire enough to draw better conclusions for yourself from your analysis.
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