Sexually bored? How to break your patterns!

Especially when you've been with your partner for a long time, the relationship is not always characterized by spontaneous acts and unpredictable actions. However, this is completely normal because you've known each other for a long time and know what makes the other person tick. On the one hand, that's great. After all, it creates a very intimate, familiar relationship. On the other hand, it can put a strain on other aspects of the relationship. Sex life is a good example of this.

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via Sabrina
07/14/2017, 11:16
Bored in bed? Then try somewhere else, e.g. in the kitchen.

The longing for the unknown

Sexuality in particular thrives on a certain tension, a certain thrill. Always knowing what's going to happen next doesn't exactly build up this tension. But this is likely to happen sooner or later in every relationship. Many of us then take refuge in daydreams and sexual fantasies. In these fantasies, they desire the unknown and therefore the sexually attractive. If you are not particularly stable or are easily led by your instincts, it can happen that you suddenly find yourself in bed with someone other than your partner.

But it doesn't necessarily have to be like that. Especially not if you want to integrate something new into your sex life. And you should want to, because otherwise your situation is unlikely to change. David Schnarch, one of today's best-known sex therapists, believes that a change in your sex life has a lot to do with working on your partnership. So if you're not happy with your sexual situation right now: Don't wait for something to change on its own. Get active yourself!

Seduce yourself again - in a foreign country!

I can also give you a suggestion that might be of interest to you. Especially when sexual patterns have become ingrained and you feel the need for a change. Take your partner and book yourself a hotel for a weekend. This could be in a city you've already been to or somewhere you've always wanted to go. What's the point? Well, you are no longer in your everyday environment. There are no familiar patterns of behavior. The city probably has a lot to offer that you don't know yet. And you can also transfer this to your sex life.

Be aware of your partner! This weekend is just for the two of you - no children, no in-laws, no friends. Get involved with each other. Remember the time when you first met and what you found particularly interesting about each other. Dress up and go out together. As if you wanted to seduce your long-term partner for the first time. Don't think about the fact that you might already have him in your pocket. You have to conquer him. This is exactly what creates tension, something new. This can lead to you breaking out of your usual patterns - also in a sexual sense. With this in mind: let yourself be seduced and be open to new experiences!

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