The 2-2-2 rule: more relationship quality through fixed times

Love relationships can be the best thing life has to offer. You find your soulmate with whom you can share everything, someone who trusts you like nobody else and with whom you can have intense sex. But love relationships can also be the exact opposite - hell on earth...

Mit der 2-2-2-Regel hält die Beziehung länger.© iStock
How do you keep your love fresh? With the 2-2-2 rule!

Due to the great emotional and physical closeness, no one can hurt us as much as our partner. So that you can experience heaven on earth more often - i.e. have an intact relationship - there is a rule that is often recommended by couples therapists when there is a crisis in the relationship.

What is the 2-2-2 rule?

This rule is both simple and quite effective. It is called the 2-2-2 rule. Thefirst two stands for making an appointment every two weeks to go out together - a kind of date in a long-term relationship. Generally speaking, people in longer-lasting relationships don't arrange to go out as often as they used to. By doing it more often again, you are reminded more of the early days when everything was still very exciting. In addition, the activities must be something that both of you want to do. A visit to a restaurant together or an evening in the sauna, for example. Another advantage is that you usually dress up for going out - a welcome change from the usual jogging bottoms look.

Weekend trips together

The second two stands for spending a weekend together every two months. Preferably just the two of you. You consciously take time for your partner, because they are the center of attention for a certain amount of time. This can work wonders in a long-term relationship. Do you have no idea what to do on the weekend? Get creative! Take a city trip together to a city you don't know yet or treat yourself to a weekend in the countryside including a spa treatment. The main thing is to get out of your familiar surroundings. On weekends like this, your sex lifecan really blossom again...

7 days of togetherness

The third two stands for a vacation that you spend with your partner every two years. This could be somewhere new or somewhere you've already been. Perhaps when you were newly in love. In any case, the same applies here: It would be best as a couple. The vacation should last at least a week. You can also choose vacation destinations that are not in the immediate vicinity. However, it is important that you both enjoy the vacation destination.

Fixed periods as a secret recipe

Perhaps you are wondering why this rule should fundamentally improve your relationship? Quite simply, it creates fixed periods of time in which it's just you and your partner. Such spaces are often neglected in everyday life, even if you live together. When your partner is the center of attention for a set amount of time, while doing interesting and fun things, your relationship can benefit immensely!

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