The foreplay

First of all, an extended foreplay works wonders! It takes us out of the stress of everyday life and into a world of sensuality and passion. We need to switch off our thoughts so that we can really indulge in pleasure. There is no set time frame for foreplay, but it has been scientifically proven that the female body needs significantly longer to become aroused than the male body. All-round relaxation and a high level of arousal are the best prerequisites for reaching climax.

But what exactly does perfect foreplay look like? It is important to explore your partner's body step by step and also to consider their reactions to your touch. Get completely involved with each other. Not everyone likes the same things, so it's important to make your partner aware of your own pleasure points. For example, guide your partner's fingers and show them how you like to be stroked or tell them exactly what you like in sexy talk.

Types of orgasm

And in what ways can we climax? Women have numerous erogenous zones and therefore there are also a variety of ways in which you can climax. I would like to introduce you to some of these options here.

The clitoris is the main organ that triggers orgasm and is well known to most people. The nipples, on the other hand, come to life during erotic activity and touching them can lead you to an ecstatic high. The feelings of pleasure shoot through the body into the abdomen while the nipples contract. This touching of the nipples can lead to a wonderful orgasm when you are highly aroused.

Ever come during yoga? This climax, which is not always wanted, is not that unusual. The explanation is quite simple: yoga and Pilates focus on the center of the body. See for yourself and tense your pelvic floor muscles. Pretend you are holding back a stream of urine and you will immediately feel a slight sensation of pleasure in your lower abdomen. But exercise can not only lead to unwanted orgasms, it can also make the ones you want even more pleasurable. The following applies: the stronger the pelvic muscles are trained, the more intense ALL orgasms are! This is an unbeatable argument for doing more sport.

But we can also have an orgasm without touching or straining. The brain is our largest erogenous zone - it is possible to "fantasize" a climax through the power of thought alone. Perhaps you have already experienced the feeling of having an orgasm yourself after a hot dream?

Tips for your orgasm

To bring about an orgasm, it is important to be relaxed and not put yourself or your body under pressure. Sex should be fun and not a hunt for a climax. Constantly thinking about "How much longer do I need?" tends to be counterproductive. Get to know your body better to know which touches make you really hot and talk to your partner about it. How is he/she supposed to know what you want if you don't do it yourself? Practice makes perfect. Explore your own body.

A big mistake is to hold your breath just before climaxing, as this tends to slow you down. Oxygen makes the blood flow faster and therefore also stimulates arousal. So, even if it's difficult, pay attention to your breathing and let the pleasure flow. Breathing loudly increases the pleasure of sex, relaxes and makes your partner even hotter when they can hear the pleasure. Also make sure there is constant variety in bed! Change the position and intensity to vary the rhythm, angle and pressure, otherwise the body will get used to the stimulation and arousal will decrease.

When it comes to the big climax, pressing the buttocks and/or thighs together to tense the muscles will intensify the orgasm. Depending on the position, the feet can also be lifted for a more intense orgasm.

A tip at the end

It's always said that climaxing at the same time is the best. But one after the other isn't so bad either! First you concentrate on your partner and give yourself completely to giving him or her pleasure and then you can let yourself go completely.

Have fun trying it out!

ORION blogger Nenna