That's probably not an attitude a hunter should have. But in the beautiful, colorful world of porn, men also have proud sizes! And the women seem to really enjoy what they are taking in. They are satisfied and bursting with lust and passion. Yes, a man might think, big must also be good. You don't need to make any more effort than that. Put it in, let the steam hammer go to work - and that's it!

Well, is a big penis really all that women want? What really makes us happy? Isn't there something more? That's where we get to the bottom of the matter. And what about men whose penis actually exceeds the normal size?

Penis length in sixth place on women's list of priorities

Certainly, the different specimens also feel different. But while many men think that longer is definitely better, women's opinions differ widely:

- Some actually prefer the larger caliber.
- Others prefer the smaller ones.
- Still others like it thick.
- And even the thinner penises find their lovers.

There is always the question of what you want to do with your penis. For example, thin can be a great advantage when it comes to anal sex.

Many women don't care how big a penis is. They love the man with skin, hair and his penis, no matter how big it is. In a study conducted by the University Children's Hospital Zurich, which was actually carried out on a completely different issue, it even turned out as a side result that penis size only came sixth on the list of priorities!

1. general cosmetic appearance
2. appearance of pubic hair
3. characteristics of the skin
4. diameter of the penis
5. shape of the glans
6. penis size
7. aesthetics of the scrotum
8. urethral opening

So we can see that length is not what women are primarily concerned with. And big doesn't always have to be good. Women who have had to deal with particularly large specimens know this. This quickly pushes a couple to their limits. Or their limits, as the case may be. Because it is the woman who can be in great discomfort if such a man thrusts too deeply into her. A vagina stretches when aroused, but at some point a limit is simply reached. The cervix is very sensitive and thrusting too deep can be really painful.

The fear of pain does little to promote pleasure. This can even lead to love life coming to a complete standstill. And this despite or precisely because of the much-desired size! Men with large penises must therefore always be careful. They can't take their lover without restraint and let themselves go. So men should also think about this when considering their supposedly inadequate length. Men who are well above average and actually have an XXL penis have to struggle with completely different problems. Due to the enormous amount of blood required for an erection, they are more likely to struggle with erection problems.

We want the whole man

What does this tell us? As is so often the case, self-perception and external perception are far apart. While men focus far too often on the size of their best piece, women pay attention to something completely different. Now it just has to reach the men's world! The study mentioned was solely concerned with the appearance of the penis. All other qualities that actually make for good sex were not surveyed:

- Mutual respect
- empathy
- Interest in the other person
- The feeling of being desired
- communication
- Humor

The tireless Duracell man with the perfect penis, who is no longer aware of the world around him, is probably attractive to very few women. So a penis really isn't the measure of all things. Not even a big one. Yes, it works in porn. But porn is not reality.

This is how it works if the penis is rather large and/or thick

If you have such a large penis, you really need to be careful. Take it slowly. Don't penetrate right away, but wait in between and pay attention to your lover's reaction. Is she really aroused and therefore wet enough? Don't be lavish with lubricant. The better it goes, the more fun it will be for both of you.

Slow sex is the keyword for you. Perhaps you've already heard of it. Instead of fast, hard thrusts, consciously perceive touch, penetration and movement. Intimacy instead of competitive sport. Diana Richardson has created her own sexual style from this. There is a book of the same name and a DVD. Perhaps you would like to take a closer look?

These positions will hold you back a little:

- First up is the riding position, where your lover sits on top. This allows her to control how deep the penis should penetrate. And if it goes really deep, it's because she wants it that way. You don't need to worry about that. You can just lie there and enjoy.
- Secondly, we have the spooning position, in which you lie on your side behind your lover. Here, the penis cannot penetrate as deeply. Instead, you have all the softness of your bottom in front of your hips. Nice too, isn't it?
- And then I have the monkey for you. You lie on your back and pull your knees up. Your loved one can now sit on your back and lean against your feet. And again, she has control over how deep you should penetrate. Yes, it's a bit acrobatic. Take it with a sense of humor if it doesn't work right away!

Please be careful during anal sex! The anus is a muscle that needs to be stretched carefully. If you penetrate too quickly with a penis that is too big and possibly without lubricant, the muscle can tear. And even if it remains intact, it can easily become an ordeal for your lover. So, be careful, loosen and stretch enough, use plenty of lubricant and penetrate slowly. Otherwise, you can kiss this fun goodbye for a long time.

Anja Drews - qualified sex educator for ORION

Source study: focus.de