Slow sex: Why this sex is so good!

When you hear "slow sex", you probably have an idea of what it's about or HOW it's about. But slow sex has nothing to do with slow sex. We reveal what it's about and why this sex is so good here!

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Take time for each other - slow sex is the opposite of a quick orgasm!

What exactly is slow sex?

Slow sex is sexual intercourse without pressure - you can climax, but you don't have to. It is sometimes even frowned upon. The sex itself is so good that you don't need orgasms. Many people measure good sex by whether they climax or not. And that's exactly what doesn't matter with slow sex! The result is relaxed, satisfying sex - completely without stress, but with lots of devotion and tenderness. The pace can play a role in slow sex, but the name is actually misleading because the pace can change at will. Slow" is more about taking your time, being mindful during sex and enjoying the intimacy of togetherness.

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How slow sex works

We free the mind from having to have an orgasm at all costs. As a couple, you take time for each other, touch each other and then calmly get started. You concentrate on the pure sexual act and enjoy it to the full. Inner voices that revolve around coming and how good you are have no place in slow sex. As already mentioned, orgasm is sometimes even deliberately avoided. But it doesn't have to be like this - if you want your head to be free, then this is contradictory with restraints in every direction. The magic words are flowing or letting yourself come naturally!

What does slow sex do to us?

Slow sex is a great way to get mentally closer during intercourse. This is supported by the bonding hormone oxytocin, which is released during sex. Couples who see sex primarily as an act of satisfaction often don't feel any real connection to their partner - depending on the status of the relationship, this may only play a subordinate role. You could also be having sex with person xy right now. Slow sex therefore gives us a lot to experience, discover and understand ourselves as a couple during the act.

Who is slow sex particularly suitable for

As described above, slow sex is all about bonding. It is therefore ideal for couples who are looking for a sexual connection with more depth instead of traditional sex. Slow sex is also great for couples who want to escape the pressure of orgasm: Nobody enjoys sex that is non-stop expectations and disappointments in the long term. But couples who have been together for a long time and have lost sight of each other sexually can also find each other again through slow sex.