That moment when everything suddenly makes sense. When we no longer doubt, but are completely at peace with ourselves and everything. How wonderful it must be to suddenly have all the answers, to know our place in the world and to know how we can live a fulfilled, happy life. The search for the self takes time, but it is worth it.

Getting answers: Going on a search

In our search for ways and strategies to find out who we really are and what we really want, how we can achieve our goals, we often only look outwards: we look to others for guidance, ask our friends for advice, listen to expert opinions. All of this is useful and important, as it gives us lots of ideas and inspiration. However, it is at least as important to look inwards - without the influence of others. What do I really want? Where do I want to go? What makes me happy? This is the only way we can really get to know ourselves, learn to appreciate ourselves and love ourselves.

Meaning in the now: looking back

To understand where we are in life, what we have already mastered and how strong we are, it helps to write a kind of autobiography. You are completely free to choose the form: Make a retrospective note of the most important moments and experiences of a year, record your feelings in certain situations - or perhaps you would like to record a "fever curve" for each year instead, with the natural ups and downs that characterize your development. After a short time, you will recognize patterns: a kind of red thread that runs through your entire life - and has led you to the present. Finding yourself always has something to do with reflection.

Courage for tomorrow: setting new goals

By writing down the various stages we have gone through, we realize that although we often had to struggle with obstacles, we always overcame them in the end. Problems have become solutions - and we have done so using our own strength. The search for the self goes hand in hand with recognizing that we can do something. This realization gives us confidence and courage for the next day. We are free and ready to plan our future, to chart a new course that will take us forward. Ask yourself what you want and set yourself specific goals. What do I really want? Thanks to your biography work, you will know which talents lie dormant within you and which qualities you can make greater use of in the future to achieve these goals. Keep reminding yourself that you are the architect of your own existence. It is up to you to actively shape your life! From now on, incorporate the things that really matter to you into your everyday life and work more often. Your personal values, preferences and beliefs are important so that you are in harmony with yourself - and with the people who surround you every day. This is how you can really find yourself in the long term.

More energy: use sources of strength

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it is often difficult to simply stop and listen to yourself. Then it often helps to go to a favorite place or consciously do something that gives us peace and makes us forget all stress. This is counterproductive in the search for the self. Hiking, for example, is a very simple yet effective option. It's not for nothing that the question "How are you?" also contains the word "walk". And when we move, we feel good. We feel ourselves, consciously use our senses, perceive our body in a new way and can let our thoughts run free. Try out again and again in which environment you feel particularly comfortable and can recharge your batteries. Actively search for yourself - this can actually be understood literally.

True self-love: practising acceptance

The last and most important step to a fulfilled life and to finding yourself: accepting yourself as you really are. Because even if we have now recognized where we are and where we want to go, we will only be happy if we stop constantly criticizing and questioning ourselves. So start by eliminating all questions with the word "enough" at the end: no more "Am I good enough?" or "Am I pretty enough?"! Tell yourself: "I am allowed to be who I am and how I am. And that's why I don't have to stay like this, I can also grow beyond myself. If that's what I want."