As a woman in a situation like this, you often feel helpless, completely overwhelmed by the situation and put your foot in every mouth. As if the situation wasn't already unpleasant enough for him. Of course, we can't really understand how he must feel when he's struggling with erectile dysfunction. To avoid embarrassing situations, we have put together a few tips on how you can deal with such a sex faux pas:

1. be reserved

First of all, you should realize that it has nothing to do with your attractiveness! So don't be miffed. Your man is probably already suffering enough from the fact that he can't keep his erection. If you now turn the focus onto yourself, you will probably make him feel even worse. The result? It will only get more uncomfortable - for him!

2. say nothing at all

Sometimes silence is worth its weight in gold. This is also the case when potency problems affect lovemaking. Your partner will be busy enough with himself. Just leave him alone, but be there for him if he needs you. However, if the problems persist, a conversation is of course unavoidable. Take advantage of a quiet moment when you can talk about serious issues. A visit to the doctor can often work wonders. Medication or psychotherapy can also help.

3. don't make a big deal out of it

Simply give your partner a hug. You can also tell your sweetheart that it's not bad and that you can just cuddle up. Don't be disappointed under any circumstances, at least don't let it show. That would only increase the pressure to perform. Simply exchange caresses with each other, as these also release feelings of happiness and deepen your bond.

4. offer him alternatives

Is your man the king of oral sex? Very well, tell him! Subtly, of course, and without putting pressure on him. Ultimately, it can be very good for his psyche if your sweetheart realizes that you know and appreciate his many other talents in the bedroom. In this way, you take away the feeling that he can only satisfy you in one very specific way and is failing in this one.

It's best to trust your instincts and decide spontaneously which strategy makes the most sense in your situation. Under no circumstances should you make jokes about him! But don't feel sorry for him either or try to find out the causes with him straight away. In most cases, erectile dysfunction is only a temporary phenomenon. All it takes is a little patience and affection and you'll soon be romping through the sheets as usual;)

ORION blogger Shirin