Some of the results of the study are quite astonishing. But - and here comes the small caveat: only singles were surveyed. That's why we simply interviewed a few people on the subject of "What women want", some of whom are in a relationship. Exciting! In any case, the fact is that sex is no longer a taboo subject. In the past, people hardly talked about it in public and many didn't even dare to talk openly about their preferences with their partner. But you can only get what you want if you say what you want. So: Speak up, what makes really good sex for you?

Barbara (45): "Role play really turns me on"

"I like experimenting in bed. I also think role-playing is great. I like to dress up as a dominatrix, but then I'm the one being seduced. That's my best sex. Men who don't like that wouldn't be an option for me. I don't want to do without that."

Ina (36): "It still tingles just thinking about it"

"Suddenly he was standing in front of me in a bar on a summer evening. After a few minutes, he grabbed me and just kissed me. We then went to him. It was really passionate and, yes, wild. With a stranger. It was amazing!"

Kathrin (49): "First it was so embarrassing, then it was hot"

"I caught my husband Frank watching porn. It was such a stupid situation. No one knew what to say. And I didn't feel like discussing our sex life either. I know it's at low tide right now. Then Frank asked if I wanted to watch. It was still going on at the time. We do that more often now."

Hanne (52): "I just want to let myself go and enjoy it sensually"

"I had bad sex for years, passionless and always finished when my ex came. After the break-up, I had an affair with a man for whom it was important that I had fun. It was totally unusual, but also fantastic. When I met my current partner, we talked about sex and how we love it. That's good, my wishes are being fulfilled."

Franziska (42): "I get really turned off by hectic, quick-and-easy sex"

"One thing is particularly important to me during sex: time. I can't have any appointments afterwards. That stresses me out so much that I can't relax. Extensive foreplay and lots of stroking are part of it for me. But my last boyfriend Rolf was really into quickies - in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the car. Not very affectionate, stormy and occasionally a bit rough. I usually went along with it to do him a favor, but it didn't satisfy me. On the contrary: I felt used by him. In the end, the sex led to the breakdown of our relationship. Sometimes it's just not right sexually."

What do women want? What the expert says

Jill Tammling is a sexologist and has her own practice, offers advice, gives workshops and hosts events. www.jill-tammling.de

What is important to women when it comes to sex - or is there no general answer?

Different things can be important to women. Everyone has their own taste in sex. In general, they like it when they can feel their inner space. Active receptivity takes a little practice and can be tried out through masturbation.

Women and sex - has a lot changed in recent years?

Yes, women are now more open-minded, are more involved with their bodies and enjoy a wide range of sexual variations. But not everyone feels that way yet, because the ease of sexuality is rather unfamiliar to some, but it is still perceived as a pleasure to discover oneself and the other.

So what actually makes a good lover?

A man is good in bed when he gives and takes in sexual contact. He can get involved with the woman and lets the lovemaking run free without wanting to achieve anything.

What women want: the facts

24% want the man to call the shots during sex. So it's fitting that only 14% of men like to take the lead. But for most, it is important that things are equal.

45% say that they like to take plenty of time for sex. 44% of men feel the same way. Fits!

52% of women consider themselves to be good lovers. In fact, only 39% of men believe that they are good in bed. We would have thought otherwise ...

14% of women stated in the Parship survey that they like to experiment during sex. The figure for men is 19%.

7% of single women say it is only important to them that their sex partner gets their money's worth. The men see it differently. 37% of them think that this point is definitely important. Nice!

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