Compulsive listlessness?

According to a study, women between the ages of 50 and 60 want sex several times a month on average. However, many women no longer feel desirable in this age range, which is why a quarter of 50 to 55-year-olds no longer have sex. Among women aged between 65 and 70, only one in three is sexually active. Is this lack of desire also inevitably linked to changes in the body?

The menopause itself, i.e. the last menstruation, heralds the start of the menopause. The path to the menopause is called the perimenopause and usually lasts around 10 years. During this period, a physical and emotional change takes place that is comparable to puberty. The oestrogen level drops continuously to an absolute minimum. As a result, mucous membranes become drier, which means that the vagina no longer becomes moist as quickly. Without a lot of tenderness or lubricant, sex could therefore become painful. However, from a purely physical point of view, there is no connection between the oestrogen level and the desire for sex, so it cannot be directly due to the physical change.

Young society

If the body does not have a direct effect on the sensation of pleasure, the question arises as to what else the lack of desire could be due to. One reason could be the psychological change. In a society in which often only young, attractive people are placed in the foreground and presented as a "showcase symbol" for lust, it can often be the case that it is precisely these impressions that can pull you down a little. If someone smiles at you on the street, you may be on a high. However, a strange look can quickly make you feel bad if your self-confidence is affected. Add stress at work to the mix and you have a lethal cocktail for listlessness.

In other cultures, where it is not only young people who are attractive, such problems are less common. In Japan, for example, a woman is perceived as very attractive if she has already passed the menopause .

No matter how you look at it, every woman goes through the menopause at some point. So you should make the best of it and perhaps embark on a new journey of sexual discovery. Rediscover yourself, try out different ways of playing and, above all, approach the whole thing with confidence. And such a life without rules is also much more relaxed, isn't it?

ORION blogger David