Peace, joy and pancakes? Fiddlesticks. In every relationship, in the family or in the office, there are arguments. Fortunately, that's not a bad thing at first. The truth is: as soon as people meet, conflicts arise. We all have our own individual views, preferences and, of course, dislikes. Arguing is even important because it helps to bring relevant issues to the table and contributes to the further development of our personality and partnership. But only if you follow a few rules. Otherwise, a mini-conflict can all too quickly escalate into (relationship) drama. As soon as you sense that the mood is boiling, it's important to counter it with something so that the situation doesn't escalate. These anti-argument sentences will bring some calm.
These are the 3 golden anti-arguing phrases
1. "Shall we make some tea first?"
It could just as easily be a coffee or something to snack on, or you could suggest sitting on the sofa or bed. The important thing here is that you are in a different situation and can take a deep breath. The impulse to (counter)attack is interrupted and you can immediately think more clearly again.
2 "I understand what you mean"
This sentence lets your partner know that you have thought about their point of view and that you take them seriously. This is what people whose feelings have been hurt want most of all. You are also showing your loved one with these words: "You are important enough to me that I will listen to you - even now." This is balm for the soul.
3. "Is this the way to find a solution that helps us?"
When arguing, you often go round in circles. With this magic phrase, you break the spiral and give yourself and your partner the chance to really tackle the actual problem. Plus: By using the word "us", you make it clear that you also have his or her best interests at heart. This is soothing.
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