Not everyone immediately realizes that this type of fart, also known as "flatus vaginals" in medical parlance, is a by-product of lovemaking. Because, as we all know, what goes in must come out. And in this case, it does so primarily with loud noises. Experienced lovers smile about it and simply carry on. But for beginners or newly in love couples, this is a difficult area. What to do?

Fart avoidance leads to less fun

Fortunately, there is good advice for everything. Including here, of course. But are these tips actually useful? I have asked this question for you.

1. does it help if the partner is on top?

The woman should lie on top and can thus move in such a way that "no gap is created" and in this way no air is pushed into her. This would therefore mean that the riding position would remain the only position for delicate minds in future. And we would also be severely restricted in our freedom of movement. Just don't move your bottom too far upwards so that the penis doesn't see the light of day. Because then air could get into the vagina.

I would say that these thoughts lead to cramped movements and cramping is really not conducive to pleasure. No farts for no pleasure. Hm. I know what I would choose.

2. does it help if he doesn't pull his penis out too far?

Conversely, he shouldn't pull his penis out too far either, they say. Because this also encourages the external air to be pressed into the vagina. Or into the anus.

Yes, there is something to that. But isn't this movement also part of sex? All the way out, all the way in? Wonderfully long movements? Should you really hold back just to avoid any discomfort?

3. does it help to insert a finger into the vagina in between?

The next tip is not much better: one of the two should stick a finger in the vagina every now and then. This would allow any trapped air to escape. Controlled pressure equalization, so to speak.

Wow, that sounds really erotic. "Wait a minute, I need to release the pressure." Pffffffffft. Like an almost empty air mattress, the unwanted air escapes almost silently. Or like a preserving jar. After all, it only goes pop. How far does the finger actually have to go in? And when exactly? Besides, the penis is already inside. I imagine it would be really funny with the anus. Double penetration, so to speak.

4. does gentle sex help?

Ok, gentle sex is needed to avoid farting, they say. Because wild and aggressive thrusting, deep and fast, increases the likelihood of air leakage.

True, but it's a shame, because sometimes this kind of sex is so much fun! "Take me, fuck me" is therefore a thing of the past. Avoiding fun again just to avoid any possible embarrassment?

5. does it help not to have your face lower than your bottom?

There is another tip for women: yes, don't have your face lower than your bottom. This allows more air into the body opening.

I can't physically explain why this should be the case. So kissing in the riding position is not an option, because the bottom could actually be higher. On the other hand, she shouldn't move her hips too far upwards anyway, because then the penis could come out too far, which in turn leads to an increase in air (see tip 1). And be careful: even if she supports herself on her forearms in the doggy position, her bottom goes up and her face goes down. But that doesn't matter, because this position is no longer possible anyway.

Let the air out and have fun!

So what do we learn from this? Vagina fart avoidance is good for the ear, but bad for pleasure. It's distracting and turns sex into controlled fun. And controlled fun is never fun. Yes, I know, a fart like that can be really embarrassing and you want to avoid it as much as possible.

But what is being suggested here are not serious solutions! Because it doesn't make any sense at all for us to make sure that we don't make any noises despite all the passion. That's part of sex! After all, sex is not a clinically clean affair. If it was, we wouldn't be allowed to sweat, produce intimate bodily fluids, experiment in the anal area or roar like a stag. And the wilder it gets, the louder we become in every respect. And it's not as if our vagina makes noises all by itself. Obviously, two people are quite actively involved.

It is therefore particularly important that we are aware of these physical processes. Only then can we deal with it confidently and laugh about the little physical inconveniences together.

Anja Drews - qualified sex educator for ORION