Nothing is impossible - if we are free inside and feel calm and confident. Unfortunately, our hectic everyday lives often put a spanner in the works. Even small things upset us and we quickly become dissatisfied. What helps then is calmness. Because it strengthens our self-confidence and makes us balanced. Because we no longer waste our energy pointlessly, but use it where it really makes a difference.
Serenity arises when we can correctly assess experiences and evaluate people and things. The foundation for this is practically built by our own lives. Because living means learning - and growing.
Setting priorities and letting go of things
Going to work, raising children, marriage, household, friends and hobbies - that's a huge program. If you often feel annoyed and exhausted, write down all the major and minor stress factors. Which of your activities are really good for you and which only drain your energy? You can certainly eliminate a few of the "power robbers".
At the same time, develop new habits that immediately give you a feel-good moment. The evening phone call with your girlfriend, the weekly dance class: we need familiar things in order to master new challenges.
Maintain cohesion and deepen bonds
Above all, interacting with others - whether with our partner, family, friends or colleagues - gives us access to new energies that allow us to feel amazing things, re-evaluate things and better tolerate unpleasant things. A good, reliable social environment makes us strong and creates a sense of security. Here we can let off steam, share problems and ask for support if we feel we are not really getting anywhere on our own.
Instead of getting upset - make the best of it
You probably know this too: sometimes you just don't have any luck. And then there's bad luck on top of that. But does it really help if you get upset? You can't change what has happened - only your attitude to it. So always try to find a positive spin. As unpleasant as a situation may be, it often has a learning effect for us. If you ask yourself: "How will this help me in the future?", you will find an answer that will restore your inner balance.
Write down problems and conquer them
Does a disturbing thought keep coming back and distracting you from your work? Then take some time to focus on the problem: write down what is bothering you, what is specifically stressing and upsetting you. Write it all down on a piece of paper. After 20 minutes at the latest, put the sheet - and therefore the problem - to one side. Alternatively, tear it into pieces. Don't you feel much freer straight away?
Practice acceptance and focus on yourself
Try to internalize the following sentence: "Everything is allowed to be there!" Of course, this doesn't mean that all opinions and people around you have to fit in. However, it is much more valuable than judging other points of view to focus on your own attitude to life and find out what we stand for and what really defines us. The more solid we are in our views, the less we need external confirmation.
Take breaks and change perspectives
The English poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning once wrote: "Nothing helps us on our way better than a pause." She is absolutely right. Because only pausing gives us the chance to change our perspective and gain distance from things. Imagine you are a bird hovering high above your fears and annoyances. How does it all look from up there? Still as threatening? Or perhaps much more manageable?
Be passive sometimes and give up control
We can't control everything in life, we can't influence everything and we can't perfect everything. Instead of regretting this, we should rejoice in it: life is a wonderful jumble of encounters, experiences, events and surprises. So let's learn to "let go": Allowing things to happen, leaving questions unanswered, leaving things to others, letting go of worries ... - the royal road to more serenity.
6 practical exercises for everyday life
Finding inner peace easily and playfully - that's what we all want. With these tips, it will be easy from now on.
- Can't switch off at night? Mentally put whatever is bothering you in a drawer. Lock it up. Throw away the key. Tomorrow will be great!
- Stop for a moment and look up. Can you see the clouds? How they tower mightily in the sky? This vastness, lightness and beauty - it all has an incredibly calming effect.
- If you laugh, you can't get upset. Surely there are some jokes, sayings and pictures that make you smile? Then it's best to always have a few of these to hand in future.
- Low self-esteem stresses us out because we are constantly questioning ourselves. What helps: bring both hands together behind your back. Breathe in and out deeply and say out loud several times: "I love. And I am loved." Your happiness mantra.
- You want to get home quickly, but the train is late? It can be quite infuriating when we are robbed of time. Reclaim it by actively using the waiting time, answering messages, reading a magazine ...
- Great if you are ready to accept things. Even better if you also try to evaluate them positively. Imagine looking at the situation through optimistic glasses when you are annoyed. Doesn't the whole thing look much more colorful?
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Time to live Part 1: Who dares, wins!
Time to live part 2: The magic of new beginnings
Time to live part 3: "I am great!"
Time to live Part 4: Dare to say "no" more often
Time to live Part 5: Learning mindfulness
Time to live Part 6: About being happy
Time to live Part 7: Learning to let go
Time to live Part 9: More me time, please!
Time to live Part 10: Strengthening love!
Time to live Part 11: Become an optimist!
Time to live Part 12: 15 sentences for life
Time to live Part 13: Rituals make our lives easier
Time to live Part 14: Simply switch off for a while