The biological clock has long stopped ticking so loudly for us single mothers
Anne was surprised to discover that the search for a boyfriend was very different to a few years ago when she was childless. "The biological clock has long stopped ticking so loudly for us single mothers. I'm not looking for a man I want to have children with." That goes down well with many men. "They also shy away when a woman has a panic attack. The pressure is far too great." While childless women check potential partners very carefully for family suitability, Anne is relaxed. "Sometimes a date hasn't turned into a partnership, but I've made a new friend."
Whether it's new friendships or a new relationship: Anna has met a few men from berlinerSingles.de, among other places, who are suitable for her city and she has gotten involved with them. The special thing: In the age of Tinder and the like, Anne scours the verified profiles on the dating portal. "It's nice because there's also a lot of writing. It's not just faces that count."
Anne specifically looks for single dads Anne finds profiles of fathers particularly appealing. "I specifically searched for them, you can set that in the filter." Dating a dad makes a lot of things easier. "I no longer have to explain my own situation, which makes it easier to communicate." Nevertheless, she is also open to men without children. "Childless men in their 30s have also written to me, and I was amazed. Mother, 40, two children - I didn't think I still had a chance." One of the younger men also met her boys. "The three of them had a wonderful time together. He was still young himself," she laughs. However, this did not result in a permanent partnership. However, Anne makes sure that her children don't meet every one of her dates. "That only happens rarely. Then it's either like a playdate with his child or I tell my children that a friend is coming over."
It used to be a firework display of emotions
She currently has a boyfriend who she hopes will be a long-term relationship. He is also a father. "I want continuity and reliability. He's easy-going, fun and relaxed, everyone has their own freedom. I don't even think I'm really in love with him. He's just a good, stable partner." Do feelings ebb away? " It used to be a firework display of feelings," says the Berliner. "Falling in love is still fun and beautiful, but I also hold back. I try to stay at eye level so as not to make myself small or vulnerable. After all, the English expression is 'to fall in love' - and then you might fall hard."
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