We want to be the perfect partner, the best mother and an adventurous friend. Successful at work and, of course, in top sporting form. This creates immense pressure. Even in our free time we feel stressed. After the office, it's straight to yoga, then a quick meeting with a friend and then a jog with the running group. In between, a quick trip to the supermarket to get the ingredients for a particularly unusual dinner. Always accompanied by the feeling that time is running out. This is how we create stress for ourselves, through our own high expectations of ourselves.

Let things go for a change

Studies show that mental and physical illnesses caused by stress are on the increase. Stress often manifests itself in a state of inner tension, irritability, headaches or sleep problems. Long-term stress can impair our immune system, increase blood pressure and affect our metabolism, all of which should be avoided. So let's create islands of relaxation in our everyday lives - through serenity.

Serenity does not mean trying to change things with all our might, but rather changing our perspective. Realizing what is really important and putting other, less important things on the back burner in a relaxed manner. Letting things go sometimes. Not to let yourself be so easily upset. To be with yourself and in the moment.

Does everything always have to be perfect?

Ask yourself from time to time during the day: does everything really always have to be perfect? And do I really have to please everyone?

The world certainly won't come to an end if the breakfast dishes are left out or the apartment isn't spick and span. Simple pasta certainly tastes good at dinner too, often even better than a super dish that is currently in vogue. And the email could just as easily be sent tomorrow.

Being relaxed - that's a good feeling. Try it out right now. Dare to be calm.

You can find more tips from our happiness expert Dr. Sandra Boltz in her book "ICare. 30 days. Mindfulness.Happiness", J. Kamphausen Media Group, via Amazon