Grumble, grumble, grumble: Get back to the basics!
Sure, it's okay to be angry when your partner hasn't taken out the bin again, forgets to eat with their parents or doesn't call when they're late. And of course we're allowed to say so. But be careful! In the long run, our grumbling about what's supposedly going wrong distorts our view of what's most important: that we're together and actually love each other. If we want a happy, intimate relationship, we should therefore criticize less - and be nice more often.
Praise him again
Being lenient with him and appreciating him instead of badmouthing him - it's especially tempting on a fun girls' night out: we get upset with our partner, get approving looks and really get going. But if we internalize the gossip, we shake the foundation of our partnership: mutual respect and appreciation.
Show humor instead of complaining
Take action yourself instead of just getting aimlessly angry at him - it's not for nothing that we associate the word grumble with a goat, the grumbling goat. But do we really want to be like them? Certainly not! Instead of childishly and passively-aggressively nagging, we could try a pinch of humor and composure. He will certainly react more positively to this than if we constantly reproach him and sulk.
Speaking out prevents nagging
Take the first step instead of feeling sorry for yourself - I'm always the one who takes care of everything, I'm always the only one thinking about ... It's easy to see ourselves as victims and sink into self-pity. But if we're so clever and take care of everything, why don't we make sure we have a good conversation with our partner? In doing so, we can calmly explain the things in which we would like support and, conversely, ask which of our behavior is not so well received. Be honest: sometimes we also forget things, don't listen properly ...
Accept mistakes
Accept your mistakes instead of always wanting to optimize them - be a little more open, wear a shirt, read the book ... Who wants to listen to such "well-intentioned" advice all the time? If we keep giving our partner the feeling that we're not good enough and that we're not enough, then they might soon have had enough. With us and the relationship. So let's remember why we fell in love with him: Because he is exactly the way he is. Incorrigible.
Love instead of complaining!
Finding emotional words instead of seeking confrontation - if we devalue our partner, we also make ourselves unhappy. Because we also devalue ourselves and our relationship at the same time. Before our partner becomes defensive out of spite, let's approach them. Say something tender and loving to them. It doesn't have to be anything cheesy, no poem, no vow. It should just be honest and come from the heart. Speaking of which: how long has it been since you last said "I love you"?